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DEAR ABBY: I live in Chicago and commute to and from work each day on the El train, which is typically crowded. There are never enough seats to go around. What surprises me is the lack of thoughtfulness that men show when it comes to seating. It's extremely rare for a man to offer a seat to a lady. In fact, I have watched men race past women to grab seats. Just the other day, there was a very pregnant woman on the train and not a single person offered her a seat.
I'm not trying to portray females as the needy, weaker sex, but some chivalry would be nice. In this age of equal rights, am I outdated in my thinking? -- NEEDS A SEAT IN CHICAGO
DEAR NEEDS A SEAT: I don't think so, but there are those who would argue with us. With more people using public transportation because of increased fuel prices, seats are at a premium. One would hope that the commuters would practice good manners, but if a man didn't offer a pregnant woman his seat during the commute, I would offer her mine rather than force her to stand on swollen feet and ankles.
Originally posted by Shar
I am old fashion even though I am only 40. I think old I guess. To me if a man didn’t give up a seat he would not be a gentlemen in my eyes. Same with holding my door open, carrying my bags, etc…
...So what about this to other women and men on here, am I way over on my feelings? Am I too old fashion myself?
Originally posted by fox_3000au
What about women? Do women give their sets up too other pregnant women? or too the elderly and so on??
Originally posted by GradyPhilpott
There was a time when I always gave up my seat to a woman. Now, the mores of society have changed and some women will insult you for showing any signs of common courtesy, so I might give up my seat for a woman, but not without some consideration.