posted on Jun, 3 2008 @ 11:08 AM
reply to post by Karlhungis
I thought the same thing, Karl. When I was new I thought the respected foe feature meant exactly what it said: Respected
Foe. So I added the
member Scientist as my first foe because even though we disagreed, he was always civil and 'kept me on my toes' by making really good points. He
understood and never cried about it (and now we're on each other's friends lists!).
Later I noticed the feature is more often than not used by members to tell other members 'You suck!' So I deleted the few 'foes' on my list and
never added anyone since. But I don't take it personally when I am foed. Some do, though, and it is very silly.
P.S. I just noticed I deleted you from my friend's list! You used to be there. I keep my friends in alphabetical order and anytime someone new is
added, everyone that comes after them alphabetically has to get deleted and re-added but sometimes I forget to put them back on. It's one of the joys
of having O.C.D. I'll add you back in a moment.
As for the OP and site meanies. They're everywhere and I am not always a saint either. Even good members blow a fuse from time to time which often
results in two usually docile members clashing over styles. I have to admit I sometimes bring the 'abuse' onto myself by having a big mouth.
However, there really is not a single person here I 'hate' but there are about three members that simply rub me the wrong way (and even then I have
apologized to others when I know I have gone too far). It's just rough because instead of going to someone for help or using the alert feature, I try
to handle it by myself as adults only to have the situation go from bad or worse until a mod happens along our little bash fest and puts a stop to it.
But if there is anyone here who I have ever offended or hurt, always feel welcome to confront me and we can work it out.