posted on Nov, 13 2008 @ 12:17 AM
I guess maybe I ought to register for this site! LOL!
Ok... first off, I did watch some more of Bill122460's videos on the subject, and the whole "True Forced Loneliness" bit is really just a
repackaging of much of the Men's Rights Movement. Google "Marriage Strike" and "Men Going Their Own Way" to see what I mean.
In both cases they do make some legitimate complaints, mainly when it comes to divorce, having unrealistic expectations (applies to both sexes), and
radical feminism in general. HOWEVER, many of these people are in fact missing the point entirely when they start blaming women (or conversely
men) for their relationship problems. So with that said...
Love and Romance for Dummies:
Confidence, personality, and attitude are EVERYTHING when it comes to the opposite sex. I don't care if you weigh 50 lbs or 500 lbs or have a face
that looks like a baboon's arse. What I mean by that is being a decent human being, dropping the bad attitudes and the "what's in it for me" crap.
I'm talking Golden Rule here, not being a "nice" guy or girl, being a doormat, or wallowing in self-pity. In other words, if you want a friend, be
When going out in public, make at least some effort to not look like a slob. In other words, be clean... run a comb through your hair, shower, and
wear clean clothes that are in good repair. You get the idea.
If you do see somebody that catches your attention, look them straight in the eye and smile. Don't be afraid to be the first one to say "Hello". I
guarantee that if you can get this far with it, you WILL meet people! See? Not that difficult is it?
When you do finally get yourself a date, treat them EXACTLY like you would your best friend. That means joke around and have a good time! Don't treat
a date like a job interview, and whatever you do NEVER EVER apologize for who you are or what you believe in. That's what they call "being
For those who are shy, or are uncomfortable talking to the opposite sex, here is what you do. Take a flattering picture of yourself, and go get
yourself an account on a social site like MySpace, Yearbook, Facebook, etc.; and start mingling. As long as you don't act like a jerk or a perv,
within a month or two AT MOST I guarantee you will have action coming out of your ears. You would not believe the amount of lonely men and women on
these sites who would be absolutely tickled to have you (yes YOU) as a friend or more. The advantage here is a slow and controlled environment that
allows people to really get to know each other w/o the pressure.
Finally, give up on the idea of looks. Quit being a media sheeple. The kind of people you see in magazines and television are not real. All it serves
to do is show how shallow you are, and quite frankly people who get hung up on looks get exactly the kind of crappy relationships they deserve.
FWIW I'm a big guy too, and while I will grant that having the extra ballast does make dating more challenging, it has not stopped me from having
some wonderful relationships.