posted on May, 23 2008 @ 02:51 PM
In my opinion, you needed to allow yourself time to grieve, and most likely still do. When terrible things happen, people can't just immediately
push them to the side or find ways to "get over them." Essentially, you're doing the same thing as ignoring it, which in the long run is terrible.
It will always find a way to slip out. A person needs to get out all of the terrible stuff that's inside them as a result of whatever it is that
happened and straighten out their mind and emotions. Once you feel like you're at the point where you can stand on your own again, then it's time
to start doing things to get you over it. It's normal for your mind to do things like replay the breakup scene over and over again, think of all of
the things you could have done right, want her back, etc. etc. It's healthy to let these things out, the important thing is not dwelling it. Write
your feelings down somewhere, talk to your friends until they're sick of you. Once you feel like you're at the point where you can start accepting
it and the things that come with it, then you can go around doing whatever it is you need to do to take your mind off of it or get over it. It's no
wonder why sleeping with other women made you feel guilty! In your mind, you're still with your ex...and after being together so long and engaged, I
can't really say it's your fault that your mind is having a tough time letting go, but you need to.
Go for long hikes and walks. It's what I do when I'm upset, stressed, worried, or even happy...it does wonders. I hope this helped.