posted on May, 18 2008 @ 02:32 AM
There's a 5 year limit on getting welfare. Once that's over, it's over. They may still get food stamps and medicaid for a little while after
getting cut from cash assistance, but that's it and it varies state to state. The 5 years is federal though, so everyone gets cut off after 5 years.
If you have a child while on welfare, the child does NOT get added to the case for purpose of receiving benefits. The child gets added to paperwork
as an additional household member, but no benefits gets added, with exception of medicaid depending on the state.
My ex-husband makes several thousand a month and only is court ordered to pay $32/week in child support. Why so little? Because he's a government
employee and his buddies at first refused to make him pay a cent. Then they put in that little order. He lives in a 4-bedroom home in a wealthy area
with his new wife and kids. He doesn't want to even have to pay the $32/week. He went nearly 6 years without paying a cent and ended up owing
arrears. By child support guidelines back when it was first ordered, he should have been ordered to pay over $500/mo at least. Now it should have
been higher than that since he makes about double.
Why are men like him allowed to neglect their children?
His visitation rights were terminated years ago due to violence. I left him due to his violence. He was allowed to attack me and his cop buddies
would let him do whatever he wanted to me. Government looks after their own.
Men like him is why there are so many children without fathers.
I went through a lot with him, hoping he'd change at first. Then after he wanted to set fire to me because I left a little toothpaste in the sink, I
wanted out so bad. I took a test rating the partner that a domestic violence place had to rate how violent the partner is and he was topping the
chart. I hated him for so long because of what he did to me. There are a lot of men out there that want to hurt their wives. Love to beat them for
the thrill of it. My ex didn't do what a lot of them do though. A lot of them will tell the woman he's sorry and send her flowers, etc. Mine
would stand there and lie and say nothing happened. I'd have bruises from the beatings, injuries, it would have just happened, but he'd say he
didn't do anything. He did a lot worse than just beatings though. And it took the birth of my daughter to get me to leave him for good because I
kept hoping that he'd love me, but I didn't want him to harm my daughter any more than he had already. What kind of 'loving' father pepper sprays
his newborn baby in the face? What kind of person would do that to a baby? And what kind of cop buddies would cover up for him as usual after he
does it? I cannot type any more about this right now because it's really bringing up bad memories.
I went on welfare to get away from him. I had such extensive injuries from the beatings, I was having trouble walking. He used his connections to
harass me and cause me to lose every job I'd get until finally no one wanted to give me a job doing anything. He used his connections with the court
to have me court ordered to live within so many miles of him, in a small area where people had to drive 55 miles or more one way to get work
sometimes. I had no car and no money to get a car. There was no public transportation other than a local taxi and it would've cost more than I
would make to drive out of town and back each day to get work. Back then it cost $3.25 one way just in town. He even used his connections to keep me
out of the local public housing and battered women's shelters. I was totally trapped. I went on welfare and got a whole $207/month in TANF and less
than $40/month I think in food stamps. I ended up having to go to a community college and take out student loans and grants so I could have a roof
over my head. My now ex-husband even went to the college and tried lying saying we were still living together to try and have my financial aid taken
away! I didn't qualify for the financial aid when I was with him because he made too much money, and he knew that. He even wrote checks out to me
like he had given me money and made copies of those checks. He showed them to welfare office to try and take what little welfare I was given away
from me too. Of course he didn't have photocopy of a signature since I'd never signed them. He ended up failing with that too.
After I got my divorce years later (the judge kept refusing to give me my divorce until I finally got an out of town attorney who wasn't part of the
local system to take my case), the judge was fed up with him because my attorney was threatening to have him investigated over the matter. The judge
terminated his visitation rights which he wasn't using anyway (I kept insisting he pick her up in front of neutral witnesses if he would get her
which he wouldn't. He'd attack me when we were alone) and removed the order that I remain within so many miles of my now ex. My lawyer told me to
get out of town asap. Well, the next day his buddies from social services/CPS showed up having got an anonymous phone call that I was abusing my
daughter. Their plan of action was to take her from me and give her to my abusive ex, thus overriding the judges order of terminating visitation
rights. I had wised up by then after years of the system and immediately called my lawyer who put a stop on it. I also took her to pediatrician
following day to document her condition. Then I had to stay in town for another couple months while CPS did their investigation. Stalking and
violence continued. Finally, they closed the case because of state regulations regarding investigations and I fled the state leaving much belongings
My ex still continues to use his connections to locate me when I move. He sometimes finds me again within days, other times a few months.
This small summary is a very shortened version of my 6 year long battle/ordeal with my ex and his legal system. Not everyone who gets welfare does it
to get a free ride in society.