posted on Jun, 19 2008 @ 01:21 AM
I agreed with Grady and with a lot of what people have said here.
I confess, I am one of those guys that lost interest in sex for a while...a long while...okay it was 4 years.
I had several things working against me:
1) low testosterone levels
2) my wife had stopped doing the things that excited me (I hadn't communicated this to her.)
3) and this might sound weird, but we moved into a house that just felt asexual. I mean, the bedroom reminded me of my Grandmother's room and I just
couldn't be sexual in that room. The whole feel of the place was just not conducive to sex.
Anyway, I got some HRT, I finally actually talked to my wife and told her what excited me, and we moved. Problem solved.
My point is that it could be any one of the things that folks mentioned, or it could be a combination of issues. It could be something really far out
that no here has considered yet (transexualism, emotional illness other than depression, illicit drug usage, who knows?)
It might be so complex that only a professional could really sort it out. I strongly support you talking to a medical doctor or a therapist.
In the meanwhile, just know that you are unlikely to be the problem. I don't believe that long term loss of sex drive is normal - so he is the one
with an issue.