posted on May, 16 2008 @ 01:25 PM
I had two failed marriages due to unfaithful husbands, who didn't take the sanctity of marriage seriously.
I am married to my third and present husband. We have been married 9 years this August, and together 12 years, and friends 2 years before we got
together as a couple. We were never intimate when we were friends, and I thought of him more like a brother. I was never unfaithful to either one of
my husbands. My second husband was never at home, and even when my suspicions about him having an affair was proven correct by a neighbour, I didn't
even start another relationship until I was separated from him.
My present husband and I have been together longer than I was with the other two. We have never been unfaithful to one another, even when the
opportunity was thrusted upon us. We value each other too much; we built our relationship from friendship and support for one another, which found
it's way to love. Now neither one of us could bear to be apart for any length of time.
He is 55 this July and is still the most handsome man ever, and I find I keep falling in love with him all over again, and he feels the same towards
Our marriage isn't perfect by no stretch of the imagination, but the fact remains, that we have stayed together through troubled waters, and have had
words (you do when you are with each other 24/7) He is my registered carer, as I am disabled. We have time apart to appreciate each other more.
When we have the odd bob here, or there, then we head down to our favourite local (pub) where we have made some new friends, and have a drink
together. We dress up for those special moments.
I think the secret to our marriage is that we give and take in equal measure even when we don't always agree. We forgive the other when any hurtful
remarks have been made, and rather than dwell on the past, we look for the future.
We shower each other with little tokens of love now and again. I love Valentine's Day,(day he proposed to me), he makes it really special as it's
the anniversary of our engagement. He showers me with gifts, and he is the most kindest of men, although he has times when it seems he is going
through his second childhood. Nevertheless, I am looking forward to the future with him, and I don't mind growing old with him by my side.
So yes, the sanctity of marriage is still going strong in some houses. It took two bad marriages with adultery and abuse (I won't go into that here)
to have a loving husband. He has never hit me, nor has he been unfaithful.
We are different people, but are very supportive of the others interest. My family loves him, and like the fact that he doesn't put on heirs just for
I am blessed with a loving husband that could have been with any other woman, but chose me. I fell in love with his smile and twinkling eyes.