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Originally posted by another_lurker
My hubby and I are in a great relationship, we do what I call "a sharing experience" we've outlasted all of our friends in marriage and time together. The 70's word was Swinging, but not liking that, I call it sharing.
We share in our experiences and it is fun that we have together, no cheating and it's open an honest with all parties involved. It's not something we do often, but only on occassion.
My hubby and I have been together for over 15 years, and we wouldn't let some "fun" get in the way of our loving family/relationship.
To each their own. We're not religious, but we aren't sneakin behind each other's backs to "get some"....
Maybe if more people would be open minded to a realistic idea of what life has to hold and they too would be in a better place. I thank my lucky stars every day for the man in my life. He is my true love.
Originally posted by Ragnarok691
There was a gentleman about a year ago who was engaged for about 2 years. The wedding was all planned out and everything was paid for. About 1 week before the wedding he discovered that the nasty, heartless, skanky bride had been sleeping with his bestman for the past year. He didn't go confront them right then, he waited. When the wedding was taking place and the bride approached the altar he broke the news to her entire family and all her friends that the best man and the bride were screwing. This is all on video somewhere on the net but I have no idea where. Then the guy packed up his crap and split. I think he's filty rich.
Originally posted by 3rdEyeOpen
And in response to earlier posts about infidelity due to pornography, please allow me to share my viewpoint.
I am 26 years old and the product of a failed marriage. Both of my parents were "high school sweethearts" and I suspect (although they will not readily admit it) that they only married because I had been conceived. Due to factors other than infidelity, they divorced when I was 9 years old.
I am a child of the Internet, and I have been viewing pornographic material since I was 11. I first found a magazine of my uncle's and when I was 14 I started to watch porn online.
I can say that I am addicted to pornography. I routinely watch it perhaps 4 out of 7 days.
I have been involved in a monogamous relationship for the past 5 years, and am currently engaged to her.
So, with earlier posters stating that porn is responsible for skewing the views of marriage, monogamy and social acceptability, I offer the following story:
Once I was presented with the option to cheat on my girlfriend. The other woman was quite attractive, and had all the qualities of the typical porno actress - large breasts, big lips, and the overall mindset that she was willing to do anything that my girlfriend wouldn't do.
I am ashamed to say that we were at her house and things started to get really steamy, to the point that she offered up a condom and the words, "You can do anything you want to me"
I am proud to say that I walked out of her house and went directly home.
While there was never any intercourse, I still felt guilty of cheating, as I did kiss her and caress her.
SO - with earlier posters stating that pornography leads to cheating, please consider my above story as an example.
Originally posted by Cythraul
I'm not married but my fiance and I have been together for 4 years (4 years today actually ) and the sexual spark does begin to dull and you get to know everything about that person - good and bad. What separates good husbands and wives from bad ones is discipline and commitment.
Originally posted by OhZone
Blame the media with their influence on the down cycle of sexuall promiscuity; that "everyone is doing it/it's the cool, in thing etc". Everyone wants to be accepted as a part of the group, so they follow along. The media could as well be promoting a fine idealistic society; romanticizing monogamy and faithfulness; teaching us good behavioral habits; teaching us how to better get along with each other etc. They have a lot of knowledge on human behavior and are highly skilled manipulators TPTB know exactly what they are doing.
Do notice, that the breakdown of the family unit is going hand-in-hand with the breakdown of our country.