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reply posted on 3-6-2008 @ 11:59 PM by Question Fate
Originally posted by Herman
So, I made a thread a number of days ago about a breakup I just had. I'm 21 (20 when I met her,) and she's my first everything. I loved this girl to death, and unfortunately that wound up being part of the problem. The rest is described in the particularly long thread I created, which you can read here if you wish, but it's really not needed. Anyway, it's now been a week and two days, and I literally can't get her off of my mind. I've been going out with friends, going to the gym, running, hiking, going to movies, playing golf, shooting guns, I went to a bar the other night...no matter what I do, she's on my mind. Even when I'm doing something I have to seriously concentrate on, she's there. No matter how many times I tell myself it's over, I can't stop hoping she'll call and ask for me back...the breakup keeps running through my mind over and over again. Even when I'm doing things I enjoy, most of my thinking power is spent thinking about her. I feel like I've made some progress in accepting that it's over and starting to see the light (Even just a little bit,) but I honestly feel like I'm going mad over this. I haven't called her and asked for her back, because I know that would only make things worse, but this is absolutely horrible. The only time I'm not feeling awful is when I'm drinking...and that's becoming a problem, but it's the only way I can stop being sad. I don't know how normal this is, but even if it's normal, it's destroying me on the inside. I feel like I'm becoming this ugly, terrible creature inside and I have no control over it. Even when I sleep, I dream about her. I'm gonna have a melt down.

Help!


hate to say it man, but if you still think shes ok then most likely you wont forget about her. she will always be on your mind. the only thing is that youll eventually learn to live with it. itll get easier trust me


reply posted on 4-6-2008 @ 02:20 AM by Herman
Originally posted by Question Fate
Originally posted by Herman
So, I made a thread a number of days ago about a breakup I just had. I'm 21 (20 when I met her,) and she's my first everything. I loved this girl to death, and unfortunately that wound up being part of the problem. The rest is described in the particularly long thread I created, which you can read here if you wish, but it's really not needed. Anyway, it's now been a week and two days, and I literally can't get her off of my mind. I've been going out with friends, going to the gym, running, hiking, going to movies, playing golf, shooting guns, I went to a bar the other night...no matter what I do, she's on my mind. Even when I'm doing something I have to seriously concentrate on, she's there. No matter how many times I tell myself it's over, I can't stop hoping she'll call and ask for me back...the breakup keeps running through my mind over and over again. Even when I'm doing things I enjoy, most of my thinking power is spent thinking about her. I feel like I've made some progress in accepting that it's over and starting to see the light (Even just a little bit,) but I honestly feel like I'm going mad over this. I haven't called her and asked for her back, because I know that would only make things worse, but this is absolutely horrible. The only time I'm not feeling awful is when I'm drinking...and that's becoming a problem, but it's the only way I can stop being sad. I don't know how normal this is, but even if it's normal, it's destroying me on the inside. I feel like I'm becoming this ugly, terrible creature inside and I have no control over it. Even when I sleep, I dream about her. I'm gonna have a melt down.

Help!


hate to say it man, but if you still think shes ok then most likely you wont forget about her. she will always be on your mind. the only thing is that youll eventually learn to live with it. itll get easier trust me


What do you mean "If I think she's OK?"


reply posted on 4-6-2008 @ 04:47 AM by Question Fate
Originally posted by Herman
Originally posted by Question Fate
Originally posted by Herman
So, I made a thread a number of days ago about a breakup I just had. I'm 21 (20 when I met her,) and she's my first everything. I loved this girl to death, and unfortunately that wound up being part of the problem. The rest is described in the particularly long thread I created, which you can read here if you wish, but it's really not needed. Anyway, it's now been a week and two days, and I literally can't get her off of my mind. I've been going out with friends, going to the gym, running, hiking, going to movies, playing golf, shooting guns, I went to a bar the other night...no matter what I do, she's on my mind. Even when I'm doing something I have to seriously concentrate on, she's there. No matter how many times I tell myself it's over, I can't stop hoping she'll call and ask for me back...the breakup keeps running through my mind over and over again. Even when I'm doing things I enjoy, most of my thinking power is spent thinking about her. I feel like I've made some progress in accepting that it's over and starting to see the light (Even just a little bit,) but I honestly feel like I'm going mad over this. I haven't called her and asked for her back, because I know that would only make things worse, but this is absolutely horrible. The only time I'm not feeling awful is when I'm drinking...and that's becoming a problem, but it's the only way I can stop being sad. I don't know how normal this is, but even if it's normal, it's destroying me on the inside. I feel like I'm becoming this ugly, terrible creature inside and I have no control over it. Even when I sleep, I dream about her. I'm gonna have a melt down.

Help!


hate to say it man, but if you still think shes ok then most likely you wont forget about her. she will always be on your mind. the only thing is that youll eventually learn to live with it. itll get easier trust me


What do you mean "If I think she's OK?"


well are you in love with her or can you not get her outta your head because youre angry at her. thats what i mean.


reply posted on 8-7-2008 @ 03:52 PM by Zaimless
Some of what I say might seem rough but in my experience it is real.

First I wanted to say be grateful it is over now. Cause if you lived together, got married or had kids it would even be worse. The thing is do you want to be with a person that doesn't want to be with you?

I lived in hurt for a very long time, till I learned that hurt passes and is temporary. Sometimes and ending is only a beginning. What if your relationship with here was blocking a fantastic change in your life? I don't know if you can see the reality of what I am about to say, but I am gonna say it anyways. What if there is someone that will love you know matter what, and is what you really need is looking for you. And due to you focusing on the ended relationship you miss it?

Do not rush into another relationship, I can guarantee you it will turn into a disaster if you have not finished the feelings of the first one. I have a personal belief about love. Love never leaves, you love this girl and you always will. I still love all the men I have been involved with, but the situations have changed. I would not live with any of them again.

Healthy relationships are not easy to find. It took me dozens of relationships and 30 years to find one good man. But by then I had been married twice and had two kids. I would still be married to him, but he passed away. Seems the good really do die young. But I am doing well, I am not in a relationship right now, and I am OK with that.

You are on cue and feeling exactly what you are suppose to be feeling. It's what you do with those feelings that count. Let them be a key to growth and not stagnation.


reply posted on 16-7-2008 @ 10:11 PM by EverythingYouDespise
reply to post by Herman


Wow, buddy. You might feel bad now, but trust me, someday you'll look back on how you felt at this moment and feel embarassed at how much of a girl you were. No offense, but the only reason you're so upset right now is because deep-down you probably feel like you aren't going to be able to bed someone as good as this chick. All I can say is D.W.A.I. - Don't worry about it. Relish in your newfound freedom and never allow yourself to be tied down again. The most important thing you need to know is that you are inherently better than any of these girls and that you should treat them poorly.
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