sorry, orangetom1999 I know how hard you tried explaining this to me so forgive my stupidity in that field. its just the concept seems
strange to me probably because i never thought about it before and thats not how i operate. Also i dont get this I thought that sexual
intimacy/openness is only shared by loved ones or people who care about each other where they feel comfortable in that relationship, so how can risk
management be a factor here; its supposed to be a 'secure' relationship. wont RISK be applied to people you dont know.
Hey ..DuneKnight..no problem here with me. I sort of thought you might have problems accepting the explaination. I hope I can enlighten you further.
You are not stupid here.
Yes..the concept seems strange...no question about it. It was strange to me too until I began to change how I thought or in this case....did not
think ...about women. Once I found out clearly that I gave women as a whole to much credit for certain character traits...many things began to clear
Your first mistake in assumption is this...
Also i dont get this I thought that sexual intimacy/openness is only shared by loved ones or people who care about each other where they
feel comfortable in that relationship, so how can risk management be a factor here; its supposed to be a 'secure' relationship. wont RISK be applied
to people you dont know.
While this is a valid assumption for individuals...it is not valid for a whole group. I can clearly tell you that in the case of women......when
woman decides to mess around...she can be much more smooth and subtle about it than can be a man. In fact ..it is usually another women who begins to
undestand that a woman is messing around..not a man.
Watch the stereotype out here...so prevalent. If all these men are out here fooling around....on thier women...with whom are they fooling around.
This kind of shoots holes in the concept that mostly men fool around?
I live very close to several military bases...what do you think happens when the men get deployed...especially the Navy Bases??? You wont see that on
the evening news...yet the stories are legend around here.
My point here is that women can be very very subtle...smooth. Do not assume your templates of honor and fidelity hold. Hence your difficulty in
understanding many multi dimensional concepts.
My point again is that a woman can fool around much more easily and conveniently with a man in whom she has little at risk...as long as no one sees
With a man in whom she has alot at stake..ie...serious risk/potential....she will tend to be more reserved. She must keep up certain appearances
As I said..another woman is more likely to spot this happening than a man. And women usually dont tell men this kind of thinking...or educate men in
this line...the men might start to think outside the blocks in which a woman needs a man to limit his thinking.
This is how many women control men...by a mans lack of thinking and understanding about the true nature of a thing ..especially a woman.
In short..DuneKnight...not many women are fooled by other women....dont you be either.
Learn the patterns and fingerprints of how women think, value and hence how they will act. Nobility, honor and chivalry are great attributes and
eagerly sought after by many. Just dont be ignorant about many things in this world.
Hope this helps,
[edit on 10-5-2008 by orangetom1999]