DISCLAIMER: When i describe a person in here as a conservative Christian i do so for an understanding of his side of the story. I am not pointing
fingers at his faith, i am a Christian, more liberal that he, however, nothing is wrong with that.
A very, very close friend of my fiance's started seeing a guy (incredibly conservative Christian) in December. Before December was out she was
pregnant, so they decided to have a 'shotgun' wedding.
The wedding was this weekend, however, the night before the wedding, she lost the child. Premature birth (4months old) and it only lived for an hour.
Obviously the couple were distraught, my fiance went to see her and was surprised to see that the couple had the baby. She was offered it and could
not refuse (obviously), needless to say this has freaked her out and all the other female friends that did the same, however, this is heading off
At 230am the wedding was cancelled (as it was the next day). The young lady needed rest and needed to stay in hospital, however, her idiot fiance
mentioned if they get her discharged early enough in the morning the wedding can still go ahead. :bnghd:
My fiance told him he was an idiot.
Eventually got to bed around 4am and was awoken (first people called) at 7am telling us the wedding was going ahead (10am wedding). It did, my fiance
walked the bride down the aisle (as planned) and the wedding happened.
The difference, it felt more like a funeral than a wedding. The bride had to sit down the whole time, they did not go and get wedding photos taken and
she erupted in tears many times through the day.
What we do know is that he is VERY manipulative and manipulated her into getting married (for supposed selfish conservative reasons), never mind the
health risks (my fiance was asked by bride many times to check when she stood up for blood :s).
I felt so sorry for her, however, i guess i do hope they are happy together and she hasn't walked into another stupid marriage (she's 24 and already
divorced). Many felt that losing the baby may have been a blessing in disguise.
Anyway without pointing any fingers at their relationship as it is no place of mine to judge, i just felt they should have not gotten married within
12hours of losing a baby. They needed to respect the death of their little girl and wait until they can have a wedding where it can be a happy day for
I guess another issue out of this is the state of a number of my friends (including my fiance) who had to hold that poor little girl. I am glad i was
not there and had to see what my poor fiance did, she really surprised me at how strong she was for the poor mother, until of course she collapsed and
cried when she was with my mum and sisters the next day, which is completely understandable.
I have no real point, i guess it is just a rant i wanted off my chest and i guess some feedback would be nice.