posted on Apr, 21 2008 @ 08:17 PM
Hmm, since everyone is being shy I guess I'll start with something.
Today we're going to talk about the opener
An opener is simply a way to initiate a conversation with a women. The whole point of it is to simply get two people talking. It is not a "pickup
like" or anything like that. As a matter of fact, I believe pickup lines were actually created as comedic one-liners and I don't think they were
ever actually intended to be used to meet women. A "pickup line" would be considered a direct opener because you are immediately conveying your
intentions to the women, which is usually a bad idea at first unless she also has a mutual attraction for you.
This is why it is best to use an indirect opener. An indirect opener is usually just a question about something, it shouldn't convey your intentions.
For example, lets say you see a beautiful woman at the mall and want to approach her. First walk up in a non-threatening manner, usually from 10 o'
Now all you are going to do is ask her a simple question.
this is called the "jealous girlfriend opener" invented by Neil Strauss:
“Hey guys, I need a female perspective on something. This’ll
only take a minute. My roommate’s girlfriend just found a shoebox he keeps hidden in a dresser drawer, and she’s really upset about it.
It’s nothing bad, just pictures of him and ex-girlfriends on vacation and old love letters he got in high school and stuff. But for some reason his
girlfriend is freaking out about this and wants him to get rid of it or she’s threatening to break up with him.
Is this normal female behavior?”
So now she wants him to burn the box or she’s leaving him, isn’t that messed up??
The other thing to keep in mind is you want to use what we call a "time constraint." That means saying something like "I can only stay for a
minute" during your opener. The point of this is so the people you are talking to wont be worried that you're gonna stay forever.
Another important thing is giving a reason why you are asking a question. This is called "rooting." You could say something like, "I was just
asking because..." And give your reason. this will let them know that you're not just asking people random questions.
Keep in mind that it's important to come up with your own openers. Use something that happened in your life or in the life of someone you know.
So this is only the first step, it's a lot of info but there are a lot more things that come after this. I hope you guys find it interesting and I
will talk about the other steps later on.
[edit on 21-4-2008 by thehumbleone]