posted on Apr, 18 2008 @ 10:11 PM
Today I heard some sobering news that made me realize that we do indeed reap what we sow.
Several months ago (right after Thanksgiving), my daughter-in-law, a drunken drama queen, set into motion a series of events that have cost me
She awakened me on a work night long after I had gone to bed and screamed into the phone: "come get your son or I'll call the police!" I didn't
ask any questions, just said, "I'm on my way."
I arrived to find my son in bed sleeping and his wife pacing the floor in a highly agitated state. I woke my son and told him to come to my house;
his wife was throwing him out. He got up and we drove back to my house. As I was getting bedding for my son to sleep in the guest room, she rang his
cell phone. He didn't answer as it was obvious that she only wanted to continue ranting at him. She didn't leave a message but began calling my
home phone number. I also didn't answer and after the second such call, unplugged the phone.
Several minutes later she was banging at my door. I opened the door to tell her to take her drunken self home and sleep it off. When I closed the
door, she banged on it louder. I grabbed the phone intending to tell her that I would call the police if she didn't get off my porch. When I opened
the door, I never got a chance to say anything as she immediately backhanded me, pulled my hair and tried pushing her way into my home. I reflexively
"reached out and touched someone" upside her head a couple of times with the cordless I had brought with me.
She is a pampered princess who has never been brought to task for her behaviors so she was shocked that someone would actually strike her even though
she was publically intoxicated, trespassing, forcibly entering a private residence and commiting assault and battery. She left and immediately called
the police on me. They mindlessly arrested me despite my protests that it was she who had committed the A&B and that I was defending myself.
I spent a night in jail, missed the next days work (had just started a new job), posted $150.00 bond, paid an attorney $4,000.00 and missed 4 more
days of work over the next few months for court appearances which she never bothered to show up for even though she had been subponoed. The D.A.
wouldn't drop the charges even though he admitted I was within my legal rights to hit her and said, "she's lucky you didn't shoot her." Four
days ago the case was dismissed as she once again ignored a court order to show up and plead her case against me.
Her mother consoled the little princess by callously stating the only way my son and her daughter would ever get back together was if I was dead.
Four days later (today) the co-dependents' enabler died.
I have refrained from breaking out into a chorus of "Ding, Dong, the wicked witch is dead" but half the problems that my son and his wife had were
due to her constant disapproval and interference in the marriage. My daughter-in-law always sided with her mother and never with her husband. She
had never cut the apron strings or grown up. Her mother was very important to her sense of identity. She called several of my grown children looking
for sympathy today and, to their credit, they consoled her.
I don't rejoice in her misery even though she's given me plenty but when I heard the news today I thought, "how ironic." Sometimes karma takes
years to cycle full circle and sometimes, like today, it comes swiftly. It makes me realize that we do reap what we sow and that we should treat
people the way we expect to be treated.