My girlfriend wants to be a stripper...

Hey there OP I just had a great idea for you and your girlfriend after reading all the horndogs posting and wanting her picture!

Why don't you just get a few web cams and a good digital video camera and make a web site and sell subscriptions and she can dance and strip and whatever else she's willing to do, right there in your home, all safe, sound and snug?

Just a thought, and she'd probably make as much cash yet would remain safe from all the scum, I mean guys who go to strip bars?

reply to post by Roland Deschain


Alright sorry. This is kind of a touchy subject for me cause I really think it's a shame that there are some women who need to degrade themselves like this.

And what's even sadder is there are some who think this is the only way they can make money.

I say go for it if you are 100% comfortable with the situation. Any
doubt whatsoever and that just spells disaster waiting to happen. I'm
not going to reiterate what everyone else has said but they all have valid points.

The main point I picked up from you was how you keep referring to all the money
she'll make. You know, money is nice BUT you can have a modest income
and still be perfectly content with your lives. You know the saying...money can't buy
happiness. Besides, at least in the back of my mind, there's always a cost!

[edit on 8-4-2008 by SuprDupr]

Originally posted by thehumbleone
Alright sorry.

It's all good brother

This is kind of a touchy subject for me cause I really think it's a shame that there are some women who need to degrade themselves like this.

This is a touchy subject for most people. Especially when you see it from the perspective that the women are degrading themselves. Some people just don't see it like this. Strippers included

And what's even sadder is there are some who think this is the only way they can make money.

I Agree, this is sad. From the looks of the OP though this particular female isn't doing this because its the only way she can make money. This seems like its something she actually wants to do.

peace man

reply to post by Perfectenemy05


most of the people work for either a brothel or a club.strippers make money, yes, but they only making the bigger money from lap dances or sex.

the ¨pimps¨ can be very dangerous too. im sure there are places that aren´t dangerous to work in, but i´ve never seen them.

Originally posted by Roland Deschain
This is a touchy subject for most people. Especially when you see it from the perspective that the women are degrading themselves. Some people just don't see it like this. Strippers included

Some of those girls can make in a weekend what it takes me a month of back-breaking physical labor to make.....

Hmm, a weekend of dancing, getting naked, drinking, smoking pot, partying and getting laid, plus making sick amounts of money - or a month of back-breaking hard labor....

Who's really winning and who's losing here???

Another option for you and your GF is doing private parties where she dances for groups (usually bachelors or birthdays). A lot of times a body guard or manager is close at hand to make sure the dancer is not molested or taken advantage of in any way (this would be you if you can hold your own).

At least you could monitor the situation and make sure nothing questionable is going on, and if she got enough work, she could keep a lot more money than she would at a club.

I've had 3 gfs that all went on to become strippers. 2 while I was with them, 1 after we broke up (and another gf that was a stripper before I knew her).

Here's my only advice: BAD IDEA.

Why? It teaches the stripper that money problems can be fixed overnight. Example: rent is due in 2 days, $800. Food needs to be purchased, $100. Bills need to be paid, $200. So basically, where most people have a regular job - they have a budget planned out to pay off this $1100 each month.

To a stripper though, (at least in my experience,) it would be common for them to just be lazy as all hell for the entire month, then go to work a few days before all the bills were due, make $2000 in a weekend, and then go back to being lazy.

It doesn't happen right away, it happens over time... but they all eventually learn that they don't have to keep a steady job or be consistent. They can just do whatever they feel like all month, and then pull themselves together a few nights out of a week and catch back up on responsibilities.

This type of training/mentality tends to carry over into other aspects of life - hygiene, exercise, and basically motivation in general.

The hollywood myth of a girl stripping her way through law school is probably just that, a myth.

Sorry if I come across a bit harsh on this one. I'm not bitter or anything, but just letting you know that out of my own experience in this matter, despite how things start, or how they look.... it always seems to follow the same path.

Now of course, I can't complain as the boyfriend, the perks were aplenty. However, if you care about this girl, I would encourage her to look elsewhere for work. The same reason she wants this job (easy money) will be the same reason it potentially destroys her.

Plus, most strippers (yes, that is a generalization) get comfortable with their job, and forget that they won't look that great their whole lives. Without a plan B, it's a one-way street to much crappier jobs after that angle is used up (e.g. weight gain, wrinkles, etc.)

reply to post by ben91069


From what I know. Boyfriends are not allowed in the clubs where the girlfriend works. Any club that allow the BF to come into the club is just asking for a fight.

So now to the OP. Do you desire money, or love?
Im sure if thats what she wants to do than go for it.
I can only offer you my advice.
Its mentally harsh, and can really do things to girls minds if they are not prepared to deal with the energy that is going to come forth to them.
Drugs, cash, the alure to a better place in life.

And then you could end up alone,becasue you wanted money. The root of all evil, would be the very thing that could lose it all for you.

If you love her. Why would you want to have another man touching her.
Or better yet offering her 500$ or more to sleep with her, and have sex. Oral or otherwise.
And you would tell yourself, she wouldnt do that. Keep telling yourself that, because in a matter of time she will turn to the darkside when surrounded by dark energy.

If you meet a girl and she is a stripper, no reason to try to be what I call captin save a hoe.
IF you meet a girl and shes not a stripper.. Id suggest you keep her out of those places. Otherwise I could say you really dont love her, and you are just looking for her to bring some stripper friends home so you could have a 3 some. Your selfish ways will bring an end to any love you 2 might have.

Ive been around the block to know a thing or 2 about strippers. And most of them are good girls, but come from broken homes, drugs, and other lifestyles that lead them into that lifestyle. NOT because they want that. But because its easy route, and easy money. When the whole time they lose their soul 1 dollar at a time.

There is no way in hell I would let the love of my life be a stripper.. I would get 2 jobs before that. I wouldnt be like hitler and say NO way!
But just say if thats what you want in life.. Then maybe you are not the person I thought I knew.
AS I dont care what you think about those places. Guys do touch them. Guys do grope them, google them and offer them everything they ever dreamed. Promise after promise, you will slowly lose touch with her.

Your sex life will be altered.. After a long night of dancing and having strange men touching her.. Last thing she will want when she comes home is to touch you! Sex will go right out the window. And anything specail you 2 had will be gone.
Unless she is on the level of like porn star women, where they can have sex with many men, and then come home and have sex with their partner.
But then they must create 2 sides of themselfs. And then you never know which person you are going to deal with.
1 of those girls will be lost in drugs and sex.. While the other half so despretly tries to hold onto what she feels as normal.
Most of those girls commit suicide. Most of those girls become hookers.
And all of them feel used, and abused deep down.

Ive dated enough of these girls in my youth to know. once you start down that dark path, it only gets worse. And can really mess them up.
It sucks that money will push people into this lifestyle.
But it happens all the time.. ITs all part of the bigger plan to control you, and your life. HOw they control the minds, and get them hooked on drugs.
Those with power have this set up so nicely to destroy you and those you love with the filth they create.

AS a guy, I love me some boobies.. but I stay out of strip clubs.. THey have a very dark vibe, and I feel pity formost those girls in there.
I know the games, and the lies they feed their Johns every day.
I know all to well..

Thus I suggest if you love her.. Dont let her get into this..
IF you are just looking for some money.. WHy not just put up an add on Craigs list, and be her pimp.. That way you would have some control over whats going on.
IN a club, you have no power.. They wont allow you in the door being her Boyfriend, and for good reason.. It will eat you up inside.
And you will want to kill those guys.. Honestly man.. YOu will be set on fire within your heart if you really care for her.
I know.. Ive been threw this once.. Never agin, will I put myself threw that kind of mental, physical torture.


[edit on 15-4-2008 by zysin5]

This will go one of two ways. It depends on your type of girl.

She will refuse the sex, drugs, parties and be shunned by the other girls and quit.

She will dive into the drugs, maybe meth, likely pills; the parties, and the attention and she won't come back up for air until you're gone or she's gone.

But it depends on your girl. It will happen either way sooner or later. :w:

Originally posted by zysin5
Boyfriends are not allowed in the clubs where the girlfriend works. Any club that allow the BF to come into the club is just asking for a fight.

that's not accurate at all, at least not in my experience. It's not like strippers have to tell the club who their boyfriend is, and it's not like you would walk into the club and start acting like she's your girlfriend. Just like you don't go to your friend's work and start talking sports in the middle of a phone conference.

If you are the type of guy that would start a fight because your stripper girlfriend is stripping, well, I'm not sure what to say about that. Like going to an R rated film and complaining that you heard the F word.

[edit on 15-4-2008 by LordInfamous]

[edit on 15-4-2008 by LordInfamous]

Watch out, if she does become a stripper because, my bestfriend works at a new club in Dallas, and there is a lawsuit going on from a girl kicking her leg up and hitting a guy in the face with her heel...lol

I say if it's ok with you, then let her do it.... she may not like it in the end. Just make sure you are going to be ok with it, otherwise it will just eat at you until you break.

[edit on 15/4/08 by secret titan]

reply to post by Givenmay


Did it KO him???

reply to post by scientist


THis may Start to get off topic, But its true. Boyfriends are not allowed in the strip clubs where their Girlfriends work! Let me add, this is florida Im talking about. Not sure the rules where you live. They may differ.
Now be it, The girls can lie, and just not tell the manager or owners that their boyfriend is so and so, becasue before hand, she had made him promise not to start any problems.
Your woman is getting all touched on, and half naked in front of other dudes.. Lots of other dudes, and they all want to bone her..
YOU dont think that would piss you off? It sertinly would me, but agin thats just me. I always stayed out of my girls clubs, no way. Out of site out of mind.
But yeah, some guys I guess can get off on that kinda of stuff.. But thats not me.. Not my personal fetish.


Agin- Here in Florida there is a 6 feet rule of thumb most girls have to go by. Private dances, are 6 feet away. Not suppose to touch.. lol yeah right.
Anyway, same ole stuff goes on in those places. Only difference now. Is your girlfriend might get put in jail, because other girls are being naughty.
Cops are always busting down a different club each week here.
Yep they take all the girls on shift to JAIL. And then to top it off, all the girls get their name in the paper the next day. So its can humilate them even further. Its BS, and I tire of the games we play on this earth..
And I do feel for those girls who have to hustle, and tell you guys who go into strip clubs how much the LOVE you, and want to be with you someday.
They tell you lie after lie, and you keep on feeding them money.. LOL I love how it works.. Purely insane and perfect for this screwed up soceity.

Ive always stood and supported my girls who endeaver this job. But I know how much it deeply hurts them to protray this side of themselfs for you. They do it for the money.. ITs that simple.

[edit on 16-4-2008 by zysin5]

For me, this would be a huge "No!"

I have issues on several levels.

First, there's the criminial element.

Most organized crime rings are involved in the "adult entertainment industry." Not the same as saying that every club is owned by the mafia. But clubs do tend to burn down a lot, when different stripper franchises are competing.

Think about it. Most criminals "blow of steam" in joints like that, so the criminal presence is never absent, even in the most upscale clubs. I knew an informant who was a drug dealer, and would take undercover cops around to all the local clubs and dish out coke, so the girls would tell the police all the latest gossip.

Do you want someone you love working for people like that.

Then there's the fact that the girl is naked, literally defenseless, around scores of sexually frustrated men full of overpriced alcohol. The number of strippers who are victims of crime is not small. One the one hand you have men who don't have money, but DO have the spare time to stalk your girlfriend, follow her home, etc. Most sexual predators have "issues" with porn and prostitutes. Which is why pros are usually the first targets of a budding killer.

Then you have the club owners. Many of them dabble in pimping at least part-time. Many of them are not averse to hitting a woman (and maybe her boyfriend) to keep people in line. Most of them carry guns everywbere, because they carry large amounts of cash. I've heard complaints from dancers who claimed, but could never prove, that they wre coerced into continuing dancing at a given club, due to threats or violence once they'd gotten into the industry.

Finally, there's the question I have, of why my significant other wants the approval of strangers, or is willing to try and generate lust in other men than me.

The woman in my life is not for sale, not at any price. not even for window-shopping. If she wants to leave, she can leave. But if she's with me, then she's . . . committed. I don't come on to other women, and she doesn't come on to others, either.

No offense to you, or anyone who works in the industry, or has a lover who does. But if someone acts like a slut/bimbo/manbo, etc., then that is what they are.

You got any pictures of your girlfriend?


Want to buy one?



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I apologize for the rancid edge on my previous post.

It goes to my experience with a previous flame who was a "notorious woman." Not a stripper, but it's never cool when your boss asks whom you're dating, and when you name her, his eyes cloud over and he kind of sighs. then HE tells the next person in the room, who says, "HER? Dude, does she still party? Tell her I'd still be up for a threesome." And the next guy walks into the room asks if she isn't still on probation, because that was part of her adjudicated sentence.

See the scene in office space where Drew says, "Hell, Lumberg did her, man."


Not that it's the topic at hand, but sometimes a little history explains where someone's attitude is coming from.

how long can a strippers career last?? does she want to be in her 30s stripping?? it can only last so long.. i mean its her life and stuff but does she have a back up plan? like if she gets pregnant or fat? honestly strippers have a short shelf life... and its not nearly as glam as people think. i couldnt handle it if my girlfriend was one
i am a chick though so may be diff for guys. im not a lesbian either im just saying IF i was a guy and stuff.
i couldnt deal i think in the long run of things these days. maybe if she wants to try it out for fun but honestly it can only last so long

I cant believe people are discussing this. the answer is obvious. who in the world would want to do that plus its a slippery slope to rock bottom.

dude, sorry but do u love ur girlfriend, honestly? or you planning on leaving her in the future and leaving that MESS you created to be sorted out by her next boyfriend (someone she met at a strip club). its stupidity really and expect this-- because thats what you are in for. we all have stupid ideas that we later regret in life, this is one of them. and like someone said before, she might not look at you the same way as before and her attitude will change, she wont be the same person. and i feel sorry for her parents that trusted you with their daughter. im not trying to be rude i just want to get my point across so dont take it the wrong way i mean well and i hope you make the right decision.
and if she likes stripping so much why not get her a pole or something at your place