i had a big argument with my english tutor today cos she thinks that the idea of finding someone perfect for u is far too idealistic and a ridiculous philosophy. this kinda upsets me because for some reason i like to believe that somewhere in the world among the billions and billions of people there are a handful that are absolutely perfectly suited to you. she said i was bein stupid. u gotta have hope though... has anyone here found their soulmate? or do u think the idea is ridiculous?i'd really appreciate what u think... cos its stressin me out for no reason. i mean why would is ther such a big deal about love it it doesnt really exist n only a deep liking exists.... valentines day? thats gotta mean somethin.. maybe its just for the commercial industries...

Sorry to say that I do not believe that there is another 'half' of you out there somewhere as it would indicate that one is not whole to begin with.

Besides if I found someone that was just like me, we would have to kill each other like those Japanese fighting fish. There can be only one!

I don't think you're ever really positive you've found your soulmate until you've lost him or her forever, thus debunking the whole destiny theory unless you ascribe to predestined misery.

really? have u had deep relationships?

Originally posted by happyk
really? have u had deep relationships?

Who are you asking? I obviously have from my answer.

i meant Jonna.... it stresses me out. every day,everywhere we're presented with this idealistic image of what love is. and that really makes me feel lonely.

My g/f is my soulmate

Originally posted by Jonna
if I found someone that was just like me, we would have to kill each other

the other person doesn't have to be exactly like u!!!
u can still argue and that... but is there actually someone somewhere that was made 4 u...??

Originally posted by happyk
i meant Jonna.... it stresses me out. every day,everywhere we're presented with this idealistic image of what love is. and that really makes me feel lonely.

Now imagine KNOWING who your perfect match is, but both having agreed to move on for superficial secondary reasons. That's even more stressful than wondering if he/she is out there. Knowing, but never having.

Originally posted by drunk
My g/f is my soulmate

u must be lucky.how long have u been with her?

RANT what do u mean? i agree but never coming close to finding someone is just as frustrating id imagine

About 7 years nows we have broken up 7 times thats like once ayear but we always manage to get back together

I am with my soulmate. I love my wife with all my heart and nothing can change that, or so it seems right now.

You see I have been married before and I thought she was the one too, albeit a very short period of time.

Originally posted by BlackJackal
have been married before and I thought she was the one too

so how can u be sure ur present wife is THE ONE?

Originally posted by happyk
i meant Jonna.... it stresses me out. every day,everywhere we're presented with this idealistic image of what love is. and that really makes me feel lonely.

Perhaps it is the nilhist in me, but I believe that in a sense we are always alone; we are always trapped in our shells unable to truly know anyone else because in order to do so, you would have to experience everything through the way that their mind works.

As far as your question about my prior relationships, the major ones are as follows: 5 years (even engaged), 2 years (lived together), 8 months and the current one is going on 3 years and she is always over my apartment. At the time I thought that every one of them was love, but looking back most of the relationships that I have had were about empty lust, obsession or comfort. Of course I love my current gf and there is one other that I will always love, not in an emotional sense but instead I love her because of the exceptional person that she is.

I think that I answered your question. If not feel free to reword it.

And the killing myself thing was a joke; I realize that the other would not be an exact copy as then I would just be in love with me and I am sure as hell not sharing me with anyone.

Originally posted by happyk

Originally posted by BlackJackal
have been married before and I thought she was the one too

so how can u be sure ur present wife is THE ONE?

I don't think that you can ever really be sure. You may meet another that suits your needs perfectly and vise versa. The thing is that over time we all grown and change into who we are becoming. People rarely change in the same way and towards the same goals.

Ya, I know...I'm a real upper, but that is just me.

actually thats quite logical... what u said about having to experience the way their mind works. sometimes when im somewhere really busy i think what if i just walked past the person im supposed to be with! weirddddd. it is weird i think like this because every relationship iv been in or that iv been exposed to in my family hasn't worked out...

Originally posted by drunk
About 7 years nows we have broken up 7 times thats like once ayear but we always manage to get back together

do u still meet people and think damn i wish i wasnt with my girlfriend? or does that just not happen

Originally posted by happyk

Originally posted by BlackJackal
have been married before and I thought she was the one too

so how can u be sure ur present wife is THE ONE?

Thats exactly what I ment.

Originally posted by happyk

Originally posted by drunk
About 7 years nows we have broken up 7 times thats like once ayear but we always manage to get back together

do u still meet people and think damn i wish i wasnt with my girlfriend? or does that just not happen

Funny thing is that I don't even notice women anymore. I mean if one drops her top I'm going to notice, but sexually I don't notice women in public anymore. Perhaps I am just getting too lazy.

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking.