reply to post by ElectricUncleSam
The only thing I am good at in life is to help people with their lives. Heck even though my life sucks I am compelled and good at helping other people
It's what I do, I get involved with other peoples lives in order to help them make a better life for themselves. This guy however doesn't take my
advice, doesn't seem to care where his life is headed and I fear that if he doesn't check into rehab soon he is going to drink himself to death.
However as they say and it's correct, unless a person wants to help themselves no one else can help them. Rehab would do him absolutely no good
unless he knows he needs it and wants to change. I got involved with this guys life because he has a goal that is so easy for him to achieve, yet he
seems to defeat any attempt at me helping him achieve this goal by his drinking.
reply to post by AccessDenied
No he actually does not go to work drunk, hungover drunk maybe but he sleeps enough where I think that he goes to work somewhat sober. He does work
every day, but the second he is done with work he goes to the bar or buys a case of beer and brings it home and he starts off getting trashed. I just
don't understand his logic. (If he has any)
reply to post by kleverone
Babysitting is the right word. I just wanted to help this
get to the point in his life where he can take it easy. I mean 4 years at a
cakewalk federal job? Seriously who among us wouldn't try hard as hell for 4 years in order to live out the rest of our days making a good income
that would certainly make retirement comfortable for him, instead he seems to just want to blow this off and drink himself to death. Again I question
reply to post by Enthralled Fan
Ill try your suggestion thank you, heck if he cries at Coyote Ugly he would certainly cry if something hits a nerve. He doesn't drive, he car pools
with others at his job. So that's not a concern. (thank god) He works construction and I know some days when he wakes up he still is a little buzzed,
so I am concerned that he might get injured on the job. (mandatory blood test might show alcohol impairment)
reply to post by chissler
Yes wise words Chissler, indeed it might be time for me to abandon this project and find someone else that needs my help that is willing to accept it.
Thank you all for your insights, I appreciate your posts. I don't want to abandon this guy but as kleverone aptly stated he is too old for a
babysitter and I don't want to end up like him as suggested by AccessDenied.
It's unfortunate though, 4 years is all he would have to do at some federal job to qualify for full retirement at one rank above Captain. I looked at
this once and it would be a comfortable retirement for him. But I can't make him show to an interview sober.