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Originally posted by Duzey
I think it's time for counseling - you can't be expected to go on living like this. If he doesn't care about himself, how does he expect other people too?
Right now, I am sure you are way past just being frustrated with this.
You must have feelings for the guy, or you wouldn't have stuck it out this long. I don't think that makes you stupid, to the contrary, you show a lot of patience, and care for this person. It's very respectable, but don't make a martyr out of yourself.
You probably just need to be straight up with the guy, and tell him you can't take it anymore, and that if he is not willing to help himself you are outa there, not only for your own sake, but for your children as well.
Make sure if you tell him this, that you really mean it, and don't backtrack on it. You strike me as a very wise person, and I am sure if it comes down to this, you will have a plan first.
If he is not willing to listen to you, write a note and stick it in his pee pot!
Best wishes to you, Ducky. I haven't participated in many of your threads, but I read them. You are always very gracious in offering advice and help to other people.