My heart aches for the parents who have lost their beloved child... and I'll tell you why.
When my daughter was 8 years old, she started getting sick. Nothing you could really put a finger on... she just started getting weak and loosing
weight. I took her to the Dr. at one of the best medical facilities in Minnesota, the Duluth Clinic. Dr.'s found nothing wrong with her.
Her condition continued to worsen, I watched as my normally high spirited little girl became more and more withdrawn, and her grades were slipping.
She had little interest in playing or participating in any of her other favorite interests. After 30 more days I took her to the Dr./Clinic again.
They did blood tests, X-rays, urinalysis... all the regular tests. They found nothing wrong. They suggested that maybe as a middle child she was just
acting out for attention, and I was supposed to not show any interest in her medical complaints.
Jenny became weaker and was still loosing weight, all she wanted to eat was candy bars and soda. I tried to get her to eat normal meals, but she
wouldn't, and if she did... she would throw it all up. I would get so worried about her lack of food that even though it was against her Dr.'s
orders I would give her one Snickers and a 7up a day. I'd call the Dr. every week and get berated for not being a good parent and allowing my child
to rule me.
Finally it was the end of the school year... I was so happy because she had been missing so much school. I had the School Board on my a$$ about her
attendance. They were threatening me with having Social Services come into our home and do an evaluation to see if I was a fit parent. I was not
involved in any Social programs, so they could not threaten me financially... but they were still putting the pressure on.
As June faded into July, my daughter continued to weaken and withdraw. I was worried sick and taking her to the Dr. every two weeks. The Dr. had been
contacted by Social Services... and on my last visit July 6th they informed me that the felt that I was the problem and mentioned Munchausen Syndrome
MUNCHAUSEN BY PROXY (MBP) (also called Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy, Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome, and Factitious Disorder by Proxy) is a label for
a pattern of behavior in which caretakers deliberately exaggerate and/or fabricate and/or induce physical and/or psychological-behavioral-mental
health problems in others.
This pattern of behavior constitutes a separate kind of maltreatment (abuse/neglect) that manifests as physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse,
neglect, or a combination. The primary purpose of this behavior is to gain some form of internal gratification, such as attention, for the
OMG! They thought I was intentionally making my daughter ill so I could get attention and sympathy. I was crushed. Then they said if I didn't stop
bringing here into the Dr. for no reason I would be charged with child abuse!
Mid July and it is time for Summer Bible School. Jenny did not want to attend, but I made her go. The ladies teaching the school decided that Jenny
was Anorexic and spread that rumor far and wide. The day before graduation Jenny was too weak to go to school or even get up to eat or drink
anything. I was terrified. If I brought her to the Dr. they were going to arrest me for child abuse and take my kids away, if I didn't take her she
Fu@k them and what they thought! I took her to the ER! She was so wasted away they could not even find a vein to put in an IV. The flew in an
Anesthesiologist to get an IV in her. Jenny lapsed into a coma before the anesthesiologist got there. Upon arrival this beautiful angel of a Dr. who
was a diabetic herself got an IV started and immediately ordered a blood sugar level... that was it! Jenny had Type 1 juvenile diabetes! She was flown
to a Juvenile ICU where she remained in a coma for six days. I never left her side, and I prayed for her continuously... and I can honestly say that
God never left her or my side that entire time.
It took us awhile to get used to the diabetes... a crash course in medicine was necessary for her to leave the hospital. Needless to say we both
survived. She has been in two comas since then because she is a brittle diabetic. To this day we both have to be very vigilant about her diabetes...
so much so that Jenny now has an infusion pump that she wears 24X7.
What I want to illustrate here is that even with the best insurance (BC+BS) and Doctors, it is up to parents to ensure that their kids survive a
medical situation. You just have to go with what your instinct tells you is right. This little girl in Wisconsin could have easily been my Jenny 13
years ago. And I as a parent, I would have been blamed and cursed just as harshly as those parents are. They have lost a beloved child, and there is
nothing you or society can do or say to them that would be any worse then the price they have already payed.
Before you start casting stones, make sure you know ALL of what has happened. If they had Social Services and Dr.'s threatening them like I did...
But for the grace of God and a Diabetic Anesthesiologist who knew what to look for... my child survived. All those medical tests Jenny had, and no one
did a blood sugar level.