posted on Mar, 19 2008 @ 10:27 AM
I would like to add my two cents worth to this thread. I may say things you agree with and things you disagree with, but here goes.
I am the father of three terrific children who happen to live with their mother as a result of our divorce. The reason of the divorce was
essentially due to Irreconcilable Differences, but in the state of NY that is not grounds for a divorce. Anyway, I am an absentee father by choice. I
did it to protect my children in a sense. Their mother is a better provider and can raise them in a manner that I believe hasn't nor will it screw
them up for life. I believe had we stayed together they may have become screwed up. The reason is because I was ( and to a degree still am ) very
immature. It took my infidelity and subsequent divorce to realize that I was, and so I sought out counseling to rectify the situation. I still have a
long way to go, but I can say that my relationships with my children, ex-wife, and new girlfriend are better because of it!!
This next statement may ruffle some feathers, so be fore warned. In my opinion, to some degree Jedi is correct. I do believe that there are some
women out there who do believe that they and they alone, can raise children by themselves. There are women that leave a man and take the children out
of spite. Not through any fault of the guy, just to be spiteful!! No this is not the case for me or for anyone in my family, but I have heard of it
happening. I believe this is just another example of how messed up humanity really is, but that is a separate thread in and of itself!!!
As I said, just my two cents here. I do welcome any and all criticism as it only makes me a better person in the long run.