I am desperate now and so after 5 months of attacks from my kitty Amari I am looking for new techniques on dealing with her bad behavior.
She can get really aggressive and I can deal with a few scratches and bites here and there but every play time turns into me having to walk off into
another room, it gets that bad. It's the only effective way I think she understands her playing is too rough. I've got some pretty nasty scratches
and scars all over me
As of right now I can't even use my left index and middle fingers properly because of the pain of two deep gashes from an incident this morning. She
doesn't mean the scratches so much as the biting but she seems so defensive all the time, claws are out so you just gotta watch out! Even with the
constant clippings they're usually pretty damaging. sigh.
And it's not just at play time, I have been trying to train her and ensure there are set play times to let out her aggression but she will attack for
no particular reason. So I stopped petting her for awhile and just allowing her to come to me when she wants affection - even then, after sitting
innocently on my lap for a few minutes she will start biting and hard too.
It's starting to hurt a lot because she is getting bigger and I am just at my wit's end and so I was hoping one of our fellow cat owners here had
some helpful advice.
A little background on Amari - she was a stray, found by a Japanese man's dog (I swear she must think she is a dog now lol plays fetch and all) and
we picked her up at a Japanese Veterinarian hospital. She was a sickly lil thing when we took her in and we nursed her back to good health.
She has been aggressive since we brought her home but she wasn't this bad at first. I did at one stage think of finding her another family because I
felt like she just didn't like me at all but she has warmed to me some. I thought I had it narrowed down to Play Aggression but now I just don't
know because it's unpredictable. Not a day goes by when she hasn't got her back arched and bushy tail goin and I just don't know why or what to
do.
Today she hurled feces all over the house, she has done this once before and I put this down to a cry for attention. She cries a lot too, was meowing
all day today and she rips into anything she can pull apart (all her toys end up broken). I don't think she is quite of spaying age yet though I have
been thinking it may help ?
I have been using Rescue Remedy and Vine (for aggression) flower essences
in her water dish, which help sometimes but not all the time.
I have a spray bottle but I don't think she 'gets' the idea that it is punishment. She ran away the first few times but now when I grab for it she
just arches her back and squints her eyes (lol cute but not the reaction I am looking for!!!) Besides it feels mean to spray her.
I have ordered the little caps you put over their claws THREE times from different sellers online and have yet to receive one package and the Army vet
hasn't got any either. I am going to try find some when I am home next month.
Another thing is my husband and I will be going on a 3 week vacation soon and will most likely be leaving her at the Navy base kennel/cattery here,
will this be likely to help or harm the situation ?
I won't have her de-clawed either - she will be an outdoor cat when we go back to Australia to settle. I just feel bad for not playing with her
because she is an indoor cat and I can understand her getting bored, but I'm just put off playing with her because of her behavior.
She is ok with my friends that come over but I am always on edge when they play with her. She seems to be fine with other people but acts up with me
and my husband - more so me.
Sorry this became an essay, I'll wrap it up here - if anyone can think of anything I can do I would be so very appreciative for any suggestions
Bless you all.
Amari -
I am considering changing her name to Luci - short for Lucifer
[edit on 15-2-2008 by ImJaded]
[edit on 15-2-2008 by ImJaded]