as of late, i've been trying to work my way to lucid dreaming as well. i am progressing, but i think the key is patience and diligence.
all my life, i hardly ever remembered my dreams. i remembered them about once or twice a month, so i thought this would be really hard for me. ever
since i have been trying to lucid dream, i have recalled my dreams each morning. i have been going at it for about 2 weeks now.
and this is one of the first signs of progression...increased frequency of remembered dreams.
my advice is just to keep thinking you are going to control your dreams tonight, that you will succeed. also think of past dreams you have had and
look for any real life inconsistencies over and over again to trigger your mind out of the dream state.
if there is anything special that helps one focus or realize they are dreaming, anyone else please let the OP and me know