Jen, i would try to sit down with her and have a little chat. Tell her (I dont know what this is about) that you demand respect as long as she's
under your roof and she's not making things any easier for you.
My dear Louise, i was never blessed with a daughter, i have two sons, but i'm here to tell you, wether they are 5 or 45, they will remain your kids
for the rest of your life. They can get married, leave, and you will still be rewarded with all their triumphs and downfalls.
Kids dont understand, i never used to, but i do now.
You are very right to want respect, you deserve it. I get very hurt sometimes by mine, and since they are no longer home, they make demands on me
A little example: My oldest one who has custudy of the boy and girl, God love them, all they have ever seen is fighting and harsh words, came to get
me under a snow storm last week because he didnt want to be home alone with the kids. They were driving him crazy. I said i couldnt go because i was
sick...he stormed out mumbling and didnt call me for a few days! OH, the guilt i felt! :shk: The guilt made me sicker...of course, he came back a
week later as if nothing happened with another drama. AND Louise, i cleaned his whole house, washed dishes, put up curtains in his house, the whole
works! Later that evening the kids wanted pop corn and he made them each a bag
and told them to go to their rooms.
Needless to say, all that hard work, me cleaning their rooms, was for nothing!!!....
Jen, I think kids today have a feeling of entitlement that we didnt necessarily have when we were kids. I dont know why this is. I feel bad for you,
sometimes i wish i could just dissapear and see how they like it.
Anyway, i hope you can "get" to her, i know you and i am sure it will all work out- but remember, your ordeal of motherhood is just beginning.
I wish we could stunt their growth and have them stay babies forever.
How cute they were! All those hopes and dreams we had for them!
Wouldnt that be nice?
I'm just ranting here because i fully understand how they can make you feel.
I wish you well, my friend now and in the future.