wow!!! I just learned a new word today.
Venality is not a very good value to associate with education.
The condition of being susceptible to bribery or corruption.
Thanks for that Grady. I have learned a word for the day..Venality. I did not know this before reading your post. I even looked it up ..Thanks again.
Now..........where is my $10.00??
YOu know ..its been years since I witnessed this stupidity but I recall a parent being stumped by thier own kid and rewards and what the kid thought
he deserved. The kid had gotten passing grades for a change and wanted to go to some event with his friends. The justification was that he got good
grades. "I got good grades didnt I??" The parents were not in favor of the kid going and did not like the crowds that went there.
I could not believe the parents were speechless before the child. They could not understand that the world does not always reward you for doing well
and our walk in this world is often fraught with postponed gratification...not intstant gratification. This kid had learned to use performance as
justification or leverage over his parents. This is a type of shakedown.
I know this kid to this day and he is not doing well as he has constantly turned to the path of instant gratification and still into his late 20s
using the parents as a safety net every time the instant gratification runs out. He cannot consistenetly go the distance when the going gets rough..he
must run back home for more instant gratification/easy street/safety net. He always tends twords the "option" not the responsibility. This kid took
a wrong turn in the road. While his parents are responsible for cultivating/abetting this wrong turn he is now over 18 and it is his responsibility to
turn this around..not his parents. His parents still cannot see that they need to tell him "NO!!" And also remove the safety net. They will be
safety netting him well past their 50s or 60s.
Good grades are what a kid in school should be doing ...naturally..not for rewards....ie...instant gratification..consumables.
Postponed gratification is apparently not in the cirriculum in many schools today. This means that maturity skills are not on the cirriculum as
Notice the difference in how this can work out in life by some historical examples.
In New Orleans during and after Katrina it was someone elses responsibility and when it didnt work out as many were accustomed or thought they
deserved..it was "Victimization" time. This can also be called "Shakedown Time." This is precisely what the kid I described was doing to his
ignorant parents. Except that this time a whole nation was shaken down. The shakedown in process became obvious by the unprofessionalism of the
politicians and the blame game played out before the public and in the media.
Notice the contrast between New Orleans and this city last year which was almost totally destroyed by a tornado. Greensboro or Greensburg, Kansas as I
recall, was the name of the city. By percentage this city was destroyed far greater than New Orleans. The contrast in the maturity levels of the
people and politicians is in stark contrast to the shakedown of Hurricane Katrina. NO or little looting, No political stumping, No victimization, No
gime ,gime, gime, gime ad nauseum. Ironically to my limited knowlege the media does not seem wont to make this contrast public.
Could their be a difference in the manner in which these people were raised and also very importantly what they were taught in school?? Their
education levels and how they apply it to daily life and living?? Their maturity levels under stress??
Like many here ..I believe that rewarding itself is not a bad thing..I just dont think we should be rewarding people for what they should already be
doing. Education is what people should be doing for themselves.
One more thing..our educations never stop or cease...they continue on for the rest of our lives. We are learning every day of our lives.
Thanks Grady for the new word in my vocabulary.