I think that galloping hit on a big part of the problem right off the hop...
First we as a society no longer take personnal responsibility for our actions or our inaction. It's never our fault and there are a myriad of
excuses ranging from I have an addiction of some sort to I had a bad day.
It has become the norm for us, as a society, to blame things on others instead of owning up to our responsibilities and mistakes. There has been a
couple of high profile cases in my region recently of serious child abuse. One left a four month old girl with a large gash on her head, a broken leg
and bite marks on her thighs. The defence lawyer tried to blame it on the fact that the father was "slow" or handicapped mentally. Turns out, the
father was pissed at his girlfriend for going to a friends house and leaving him with the child and her older brother.
There was another here that I don't want to really discuss, it is horrific, but the defence brought in "experts" to say she didn't know what she
was doing and was suffering from mental illness and not responsible for her actions. It turns out that the whole thing was premeditated and well
Both have been found guilty. The father in the first case was sentenced to 2 years. For some heinous acts against a 4 month old defenceless little
girl whom now, due to her head injuries, displays serious development issues. The kicker, the family in question had a history of abuse and neglect.
They had several children taken from them in Nova Scotia a few years ago but CPS here in New Brunswick couldn't use this information, even if they
knew about it, because of some law prohibiting the sharing of information between jurisdictions due to privacy concerns. Now I am all for the need for
privacy but when a child's or children's safety is concerned, to hell with your privacy. The kids need to be protected from people like that. The
only time the father apologized was after he was found guilty. Before, he changed his story at least four times to try and get away with it.
In the other case, the woman was found guilty and is awaiting sentencing. The whole defence revolved around her not being responsible for her actions.
They had psychiatrists, psychologists, personality disorder experts all testify that she was suffering from a disembodied state and wasn't aware of
I also agree with gh on that we have become a culture of individuals and not the collective society we were a couple of generations ago. Remember the
old saying "It takes a village to raise a child"? In all but a few rare instances, this isn't the norm anymore. We now have a global village that
is virtual and we have become disassociated from the collective. It is much easier to recognize a problem when there is a group that is familiar with
each other and is comfortable enough to talk about issues such as this one.
It's sad to think that we have gotten so far away from each other that we can see a child that we suspect may be being abused and we don't feel a
moral responsibility to do something about it. "It's not my problem" or "I have enough problems of my own, I don't need to get involved with
that." Two phrases that shouldn't be mentioned when it comes to children's safety. The safety of our kids is all our problem's.
Ok I have lost my train of thought. Too many things to say. I'll post some thing else here in a while. Just need to collect my self.
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