posted on Jan, 7 2008 @ 01:23 PM
You know what? Roll up the Sunday comincs of the newspaper, and as they run by you repeatedlynot caring what you say, SWAT them on their buts with
the paper. It doesnt draw blood, it wont ruin them psychologically, i promise.
Now, i speak from experience. I have two sons.
1. Never EVER tell them they are BAD.
2. Just tell them you are dissapointed in the way they're acting!
3. In most cases, one of the parents, or even close family is the dominant, the one "the kids" fear. Threaten them that you will get that person to
straighten them out! This always works!
Treat them with respect- overall, when they are being just kids, they demand respect (doesnt everyone?)
"Mom, i want to go to the store with my friend"
Answer: Yes, i TRUST YOU TO GO TO THE STORE WITH YOUR FRIEND AND BE FINE. When will you be back?
I always told my kids i "trusted" them doing things. It worked, because they already knew i had the faith in them and they couldnt go wrong.
I could go on and on, but now that they are older and married, i can give my sons MONEY to save for me and by my telling them i trusted them for so
many years, beleive me, that money is there for mom no matter when i want it!!!!
It is very important to let them know about trust, what you expect of them, seems silly now, but it really really works in a multitude of areas of
their lives!!!
In closing, i dont have a problem with swatting on the bum! Lightly, of course!