Originally posted by intrepid
I do not possess my wife, but I take it as a reponsabillity to take care of her, as I do my children. A person rapes my wife, he dies. A person hurts
my kids, it is dealt with accordingly. The posesion we are talking about is, standing up and not letting outside forces affect your family. I think
that this is what Amuk was talking about. I think that you should find a better therapist, this is not a flame, you have issues that are not being
met. No shame in therepy, one got me off drugs.
Someone rapes your wife he dies? What a primal, thought-free, instinctive, hormone-induced defensive reaction!
What if someone rapes your neighbor's wife, and your neighbor won't kill him. Will you?
What if someone rapes his own wife on a street corner outside your house, will you kill him too?
If you say no to any of the above, what makes YOUR wife special?
Now think about it... it's your attachment! Your service-to-self idea that "She is mine" and overprotective posession. You will violate the free
will of anyone who takes that "posession" away from you.
You do not possess the other people, nor are you attached, so you will probably just report it to the police without reacting too badly.
If you said yes to those 2 questions, then I must ask, what gives you the right to violate the free will of someone and take their life? I understand
they "raped" someone and it's against the free will of the woman, but what do YOU have to do with it?
In fact, would you kill someone AFTER they raped your wife? I mean, she would already be raped, it's over, so now it's simply revenge? Do you indeed
understand the psychological working of revenge?
It all comes down to free will. Millions of people die every day, get raped, get sick, abused, jailed for no reason, etc... does that get you mad and
make you want to kill every single person who harms someone in this way? If you say no, then you could re-evaluate your stance of "posession" and
"attachment" towards your wife/kids as your property. Revenge is more of an instinct, out of hate/anger that you cannot rationally explain. It's a
huge emotion that controls your mind, because it is weak and you submit to such emotions.
Otherwise you wouldn't say you'd kill someone for any reason, at all. If you ever do, you are necessarily service to self and are very much
controlled and weak-minded.
[Edited on 10-2-2004 by lilblam]