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Originally posted by Nyorai
There is so much good advice in this thread. I used to have a really bad problem with the last word thing and making small situations into big arguments. I would even shoot back after an hour had gone by and I had thought of something else to argue with.
That was terrible. I always wanted other people to change, to help me. It never happened like I wanted. No one in my life seemed to change for me.
So I had to learn how to change myself. So, weather or not this appeals to you, I started studying and diligently following Buddhism. There is so much that can really help, and it really showed me how to be happy.
As far as getting in the last word, I feel it is a matter of letting go. Letting go of our ego which wants to win, which wants to make the other person know our win. But it doesn't matter! It's trivial! It even causes more pain for everyone!
I find that getting to know the person on a very personal level also helps. And it definitely helps to go for a walk, alone. Or talk to a friend who will listen.
I pray your love withstands.
Originally posted by deadangel23
For the past few months we have been fighting alot. We are supposed to get married in about 6 months. Me and her are constantly butting heads. We are both extremely stubborn people.
Was wondering if there is a way to come to terms when we get in an argument. Both of us have to always have the last word..
In any case, any advice?