posted on Dec, 11 2007 @ 06:34 PM
Sometimes ridicule is in the eye of the beholder.
I don't know how many times I've been accused of being a bully just for stating my opinion on something.
A lot of what you'll get off the internet is in how you perceive it.
Believe it or not, I used to be really shy too. The internet helped me get over it. Because, after all, who cares what somebody who disagrees with you
thinks, especially if you will never meet them?
Forums can be a place to grow a thicker skin. Practice for the outer world.
You don't have control over what anyone else thinks or says, only yourself. So don't let yourself be intimidated by a bunch of pixel people. Your
thoughts are just as valid as anyone else's. And I've found that if a series of posts by other people start to upset me, I can just walk away for a
few days, stop reading the thread until I've gotten over it, or I can even put particularly obnoxious people on ignore.
In many cases, if someone seems to be ridiculing you, you can U2U them and ask what they meant. Most -- not all members, but most -- will be happy to
continue a dialog in private that might just clear up what was all a big misunderstanding.
Mojo's right; BTS is the best place to start for shy people. It took me months before I went on ATS because it's a bit more hard core. I still spend
most of my time on BTS with only occasional forays into ATS.
You'll do fine. Just take a deep breath, step back from your own ego a bit, and take it all with a grain of salt.
Not a single person here is better than you. Not a single person here is worse than you. We're all equals in the anonymity of cyberspace, with
equally valid opinions.