posted on Dec, 3 2007 @ 09:40 PM
i know this is gonna be long so i apoligise in advance but if i can save one child from suffering what my daughter has had to, then it will be worth
it for me and my daughter.
my daughter was born almost 18 years ago, 4 years after she was born, me and her mother split up. i felt that our daughter was not being looked after
the way she should, so i talked to the social services about my fears for my daughter and they told me, with the evidence that i had, i would be as
guilty as much as her mother IF I DIDNT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT IT. so i done exactly as the social services told me to do and they screwed me over when
the case came to court, they called me a jealous husband and said it was fine for my wife to party 4/5 nights a week, they said she needed a social
life but they didnt care who was looking after our child, night after night. there was even 13 year olds looking after her at nights, the list goes
on and on. our daughter came home from school one day and
could not get into the house because nobody was there, she went next door and called my mother who came and lifted her, she had woken on many a sunday
morning and found drunken men sleeping all through the house.
after that court case my life went to hell, my daughter was used as a weapon, i spent half of my life in the court room begging for access to my
i went through half a dozen solictors, who promised me this that and the other and done nothing but tell me lies, they just wanted my money and told
every lie they could, the word scum springs to mind. anyway, this went on for about 4/5 years, in and out of court with the judge saying i was allowed
to see my daughter 2/3 days a week and my ex-wife breaking the court order when she felt like it and the courts didnt give a flying hoot, i was there
most months so the courts were getting paid which is the main thing ^^................ right..
then, about 8 years ago i am told my ex-wife has left the country and took our daughter without giving me an address. my life collapsed around me, a
big part of me was missing, my baby was gone. i remember waking up in the morning after a very bad nights sleep and my life collapsing around my
ankles. that is how it felt, i fell into a black hole and i could not see a way out of it, my life was nothing without my daughter, she gave me a
reason for living.
when she was born, i was afraid to lift her incase i broke her FFS, i loved her VERY MUCH, she was eveyrthing to me and as she grew so did my feelings
she was and still is a daddies girl. i loved to see her laughing and i spent a lot of time with her, which was a lot of my marriage problems and then
BOOM my daughter is GONE, my life STOPPED the day i was told, i honestly do not have a lot of memories from the day i was told, my life is a blur.
after about a year of suffering hell, i started to clear my head a little to the point where i could think and act in a humane way to find my baby
through private dectives, i followed my daughter around england, sending her cards and presents knowing she would never ever see them them but i had
to do something.
the worst part of this was knowing our daughter was hurting as bad as i was and i was hurting, i remember dreaming our daughter was standing at a
wooden fence demanding to know why i was leaving her, jeez did i suffer them days.. and i had that dream a lot of nights.
when our daughter was old enough she rebelled against her mother and came and found me, she spent a week with me in secret and realised that all the
lies that she had been told about me were just lies. within six months our daughter ended up living with me and we are both happier than we have ever
our daughter had learned different tricks on how to get to see her father and she used them tricks at the right time.. and she got her way in the end,
she is living with her dad and she is getting on with her mother for the first time in 4 years.
our daughter has been living with me for 2 years now and i could not be happier BUT her other grandparents want nothing to do with her because she is
living with me and a lot happier than when she lived with her thier daughter. the grandparents took all of the older grandchildren on holiday and said
nothing to our daughter, the other grandchildren get everything and they cant even talk or phone our daughter just because she is happier with me and
not their daughter.
our daughter has let them down so she will have to pay............
my biggest problem here is, our daughter looked up to her grandparents because they were the only ones she was allowed to talk to and now she is
ignored TOTALLY and she is very hurt about it, so am i, i have spent the last two weeks stressed and very angry but our daughter does not want to talk
about it, she says she has her other grandparents now so the other ones do not matter but i know she is very, very hurt about it.
her grandfather was the male figure she looked up to and he does this on her, i am sorry angry and depressed, i honestly hope and pray they both pay
for the pain they our putting their grandchild through..
i know i have a baised opion on our daughter but she is very loving, caring, funny and thruthful, she would do anybody a good turn long before she
would do anybody harm, her friends mean the world too her (me too.lol) and she would do anything for them but she suffers badly when she gets let
down and she will not talk about it.
now she is suffering the fact that her grandparents do not want anything to do with her, so am i, personally i hate the stuck-up gits but that is
nothing to do with it or at least it shouldnt.........
my daughter and i just want to let the world know what we have both suffered, what i suffered so did she, just not on the scale that i did but she is
still suffering for NO REASON, so please if you are putting your child through this nightmare DONT, you might win on that day but your child has a lot
of living to do after that day and they do think about stuff. our daughter rebelled against her mother to the point of hating her even though she was
lead to believe i was the biggest monster to walk the earth and her mother will have to answer for them lies someday but that will be our daughters
decision and nobody elses..
if you are fighting with an ex-partner please do not lie or bring the children into YOUR fight, trust me your kids will find out the truth in the end,