Here´s my story...
I was 20 when we got married, she a whole five years older then me. She was divorced when we met. It´s one of those "love at first sight" deals I
suppose. I KNEW she was the one for me. (Well, turns out I was wrong.)
We had a child a year and a half later. But after that, things go south real bad. This isn´t easy to talk about, so bear with me.
Neither I or her are perfect of course, I´ve done my wrongs as well. (However, it doesn´t go as far as what she has said and done.)
We start to argue, A LOT. I´m the kind of guy who just takes the blame and wants to end the fighting as fast as possible. This allowed her to walk
all over me. At first, she´d just call me names, then she started to pull my family in to the whole thing.
Each and every time we (she) would argue, she´d start saying things like "Oh, are you sad now? Wan´t to go f**k your mother?" Or "Do you miss
your brothers d**k?" and it´d just continue like that. I was broken, both my nerves and mentally. I would just collapse each and every time.
Then things would get semi-physical. She´s kicked me in the face several times when I was down on my knees begging her to stop. (I told you, I sunk
I also wasn´t allowed to visit my family. (I saw them maybe twice in three years?) They lived 10 minutes away, and we have always been close.
She´d scream "Help help!! My husband is trying to kill me!" out the window, this really messed up my nerves. I´d shake for days on end, wouldn´t
Eventually, she started doing other guys behind my back. Then she wanted a divorce.
She got one, and we got joint custody of the child. (50/50) After a month or so, she starts saying she wanted the child for "70/30" etc. Come to
find out, after all her nonsense stories about her "feeling alone" and all that, she just wanted child support. (Which I don´t have a problem
with, just how she went about and did it.)
Well, since the divorce, she´d still terrorize me through sms messaging, threatening with lawyers, courts, child welfare services etc if she didn´t
get her way. (This could be from leaving the country for a month or two with our child, even though I didn´t want her to.)
I recieved text messeges like, "Please raise our child like a human being, don´t force me to go to court with you." I´ve been trying to be the
best father I could be. But I got this text messege because I took our kid to McDonalds one sunday because I didn´t have the time to make dinner
before I had to take our kid back home to her, the mother.
I´m now being threatened with court, because I don´t want my x-wife to take our kid out of the country with her current boyfriend who has threatened
to kill my ex-wife.
So I´m going to have to talk to a lawyer in Janurary some time.
Now don´t get me wrong, I´m far from perfect myself. But I never mentally or emotionally abused my x-wife.
I just need someones advice, who´s been through something like this before. I´m scared for my child, because I know what my ex-wife is capable of.
I don´t want my child to go through the same things I have. (And there have been a few incidents.)
How should I deal with my ex-wife? Should I hit hard with a lawyer? I´m at my wits end, not to mention my nerves. (My heart jumps a beat when I see
I recieve a text messege from her, almost go into a panic attack when I see it´s her thats calling on the caller I.D.)
But thanks for reading, and if you don´t have anything constructive to say, please don´t bother writing. (I don´t need any "hahaha you loser"
Again, thanks for reading.