posted on Nov, 18 2007 @ 12:02 PM
To be clear, as I mentioned in the OP, I have tried to discuss it several times in recent years. Honestly and frankly. A couple of times very
politely, in general terms, and another time very directly (though still politely) when I explained that the amount that she spritzes (not aerosol)
fills the entire house with stink for many days after her visits as well as gives everyone else in the house a headache and difficulty breathing. I
was ignored by my mom, who then just pouted the rest of the visit. Additionally I was told by my step-dad that I was being mean and overly sensitive
and to just quit making a big deal about it (which I wasn't) and to get over it. Which I tried to do. For several years.
However, this time the offending concoction was sprayed three times, very heavily, in 24 hours. As a result, it has permeated the entire house on the
eve of other guests arriving. As soon as she left we wiped down everything in the general area in which she was using it, laundered all of her sheets
and towels and vacuumed and dust the entire house. Again. We have had all of the windows open for three hours and it still smells.
So, at this point, Simius Dei's suggestion is certainly appealing. I do need to get this worked out because she will be back at Christmas. The
thought of spending Christmas Day suffocating and with a violent headache doesn't sound very merry. But neither does a huge flap over a problem which
would really be so easy to solve if she wasn't so stubborn.
Obviously I care about how she feels - I love her, she's my mom - and I certainly don't want to make a guest in my home feel embarrassed or
uncomfortable but this is just so out of hand now that my family is being affected, not to mention the lasting effect on my home.