posted on Nov, 15 2007 @ 04:18 AM
reply to post by SimiusDei
Sorry, but I have to disagree. There are a lot of these horrors, an awful lot, and there always have been. There's a lot of sick people in
the world. But victims can heal. Everyone has a past, and some folk have had more traumas than others but it can and does get better. Look at
that supermodel who had her genitals shaved off in childhood, held down by a bunch of women, with no pain relief. She survived and became very
successful, but she can't have sex or children, though she made the best of a bad thing by putting it on the back burner and getting on with other
things. Don't think I have no sympathy, I just think that branding folk as victims, in their absence, through media headlines and "titillating"
horror stories can't help with the healing process. It tends to bring out the closet perverts too, inluding the ones so horrified they'd like to
get their hands on the "perv" and cut their bits off slowly, (which to me, sounds like they have perverted fantasies of their own).I'm looking at
it from another angle. I had this friend, a male, who I knew from junior school through to adulthood. He was a cheery, happy guy who knew EVERYONE.
About 8 years ago, when it became "fashionable" to talk about paedophilia, it was in the headlines and in every paper, he began to tell a story
about himself at 13 and this old guy, a "pervert". He didn't go into detail but I surmised that there had been sexual goings on, and I don't
think it was an unwilling "relationship" but it started to play on his mind, and with all the intense media sh*t and talk going on, he became
suddenly quite withdrawn and ASHAMED. Then he killed himself.I really don't think he was depressed about anything that happened at age 13, that was
just a childhood experience, but he began to feel really dirty, and I think that was when he branded himself "The Victim" in the "World's Worst
Crime". We're all reading that this stuff is the WORST stuff in the world and I think my friend took this on board and became the victim years and
years later, and he took his own life because he was ashamed and he didn't want to be a pathetic - "my god, how do you cope with those memories?"
victim.It's quite common knowledge that victims of sexual abuse feel a certain amount of guilt that maybe they caused it, (like kids feeling guilty
'cos mum and dad are getting a divorce) so making this stuff headline news can't do much for their self esteem, no matter how much reassurance they
get from elsewhere. The were invloved in that HORROR story.