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posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 12:12 AM
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I'm separated from my husband, and it will be staying that way. I myself used the term, because it's just what they call those around here -- bad taste I know, but blame Stanley Kowalski.




posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 01:59 AM
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Originally posted by MajorMalfunction
Not just the beautiful ones. We average women who hear some guy we've never laid eyes on before tell us "you're beautiful" are even more suspicious.


Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder .
The women that one guy might not even look at twice could be a stunner to some one else.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 10:31 AM
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Originally posted by MrMysticism
MajorMalfunction is right! If you read some dating books you'll notice that all of them say to refrain from giving visual compliments to early.


Problem #1: Reading a lot of dating books.

Dating books and sites have loads of different and muddled and conflicting information. Some of it is fairly reasonable, but then you have people saying stuff like, "well hot girls know they're hot. So you should try to take her down a few notches. Go up to her and insult her and tell her she's wearing cheap shoes."

Terrible!

Practice and experience are the best teachers.

Something you learn from experience is that when a woman is feeling physical attraction, she wants physical attention and reassurance. A simple "you look nice" can go a long way.

Trying to stall or ignore the physical attraction, "oh no I can't talk about sexuality, I've got to talk to her about books and art and music and religion and politics and all this stuff", that's the wrong response. If you ignore a woman physically when she's feeling attraction, she'll feel rejected and she'll start to resent you.



It present you to be overagressive and to eager for something. The women will think that something will be sex, because many guys are interested in just that.


Disagree. It's about attraction. When the attraction starts happening, it's your job as a guy to do something about it.



Remeber that she wants romance, not to be told how beautiful she is.


No, not all women want romance. Romance is great when it happens, but not all women expected to be "courted" in a really special and romantic way like that. Some just like to party, or have various other types of relationships.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 11:36 AM
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Women think your trying to get laid if you call them beautiful.

Other symptoms that a male wants sex can be discovered by checking to see if he's breathing and if he has a pulse. If either of these symptoms exist, or if the body is still warm. Stay clear.

Seriously, I hear what you're saying. There are certain rules and regulations to follow when interacting with the female gender. You may not comment on her looks unless she asks, you've know her for a while, or she's staring at you, smiling and playing with her hair. Test the waters with comments like "that's a nice shirt", or "cool jeans, where did you get those?".

From that point you can make varing degrees of comments based on her response. If you comment on anything about her physical nature, hair, eyes, legs, you're running the risk of being seen as sexually interested.

The safest bet is the "You look nice today" comment. This causes some conflicts in the female's mind. "Wait, did I not look nice yesterday?" "Yeah, I do like this shirt. I was wondering if anyone noticed my new eyeshadow." The result of all this confusion will result in a neutral compliment with a slightly positive influence. Not so much that you get into trouble, but enough to let her know you approve of her physical attributes....at least for today.

The "You look beautiful" comment is fairly extreme and insinuates that you're smitten with her looks and like her no matter what. She'll sense that she has your complete attention and approval. Having accomplished all her goals (to be the best looking thing in the room) she is free to "diss" you and tell you to hit the road.

Na, forget about what I said. Women are so unpredictable, that not even they know what they want. Us guys are just blind-men with canes. Feeling our way through the female emotional minefield. Praying that we don't tap the wrong spot incorrectly. Sometimes you lose, other times you win and don' t understand why. Carry on brave soldier. It's a tough battle when you're in love with the enemy.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 11:53 AM
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Originally posted by dbates


Na, forget about what I said. Women are so unpredictable, that not even they know what they want. Us guys are just blind-men with canes. Feeling our way through the female emotional minefield. Praying that we don't tap the wrong spot incorrectly. Sometimes you lose, other times you win and don' t understand why. Carry on brave soldier. It's a tough battle when you're in love with the enemy.


Women don't even understand women, so how are men supposed to.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 12:00 PM
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Spoken like a true soldier. Like I always tell my wife:

"I can read you like a book.....I just don't have any clue what page you're on or what chapter I should be reading."



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 12:06 PM
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LOL, that's about right,dbates,and she can't tell you either..



[edit on 2-11-2007 by SpeakerofTruth]



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 12:24 PM
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Originally posted by MrdDstrbr
Problem #1: Reading a lot of dating books.

Dating books and sites have loads of different and muddled and conflicting information. Some of it is fairly reasonable, but then you have people saying stuff like, "well hot girls know they're hot. So you should try to take her down a few notches. Go up to her and insult her and tell her she's wearing cheap shoes."

Terrible!

Practice and experience are the best teachers.


You're absolutely correct. That goes for any topic though. Just because someone rights something and has the money to have it published, that doesn't make it accurate.

I recommend reading as much information as possible that you can handle then "practice" different things to see what works with you and they type of person you are pursuing.


For example you are interested in the eye glasses conservitive library bookwork type of girl/woman. One book says to be agressive, stick your chest out and show her that you are confident in yourself. What they are forgetting to mention is that that tatict is designed for the high maintenance, so called drop dead georgeous girls/women.

If you did that to the library girl you'll make her nervous and you don't get anywhere making people nervous. I have to say that most books under the $100.00 range are poorly written. They don't make themselves clear in manyways on all subjects.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 01:31 PM
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Ah, jca my friend, you still have a lot to learn about the game my friend.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 01:39 PM
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Originally posted by MrdDstrbr

Originally posted by MrMysticism
MajorMalfunction is right! If you read some dating books you'll notice that all of them say to refrain from giving visual compliments to early.


Problem #1: Reading a lot of dating books.

Dating books and sites have loads of different and muddled and conflicting information. Some of it is fairly reasonable, but then you have people saying stuff like, "well hot girls know they're hot. So you should try to take her down a few notches. Go up to her and insult her and tell her she's wearing cheap shoes."

Terrible!



I've never heard anyone give that kind of advice, that would be stupid.

Never insult a girl, never. If she's really hot, like a 9 or 10, what you might want to do is neg her. for example, only telling her she has cheap shoes is an insult. to make it a neg, what u would want to do is add a compliment to the insult, and don't make the insult so obvious. So instead of saying, "you're wearing cheap shoes", trying saying something like, Hey, those are nice shoes, did you buy them new?" And keep a straight face the whole time.





[edit on 2-11-2007 by thehumbleone]



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 02:21 PM
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If anyone complimented my shoes I would instantly think he was gay.

Yes woman assume you want sex. Yes, you want sex ( lets not lie here ). Do you want it at that moment and without anything else attached? Well thats up to the woman to try and filter, and yes you are at her mercy there.

Just be yourself and try not to overanalyze it.

Who cares if she thinks you want sex? If your intentions are right, being yourself and saying what you feel is the best option in the long run. The right girl will know right away what you really mean, trust me !

Good Luck !



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 02:33 PM
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Originally posted by Ellipsis
If anyone complimented my shoes I would instantly think he was gay.

Or maybe he has a shoe fetish and he just wants you for your shoes.




posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 04:14 PM
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Originally posted by thehumbleone
I've never heard anyone give that kind of advice, that would be stupid.

Never insult a girl, never. If she's really hot, like a 9 or 10, what you might want to do is neg her. for example, only telling her she has cheap shoes is an insult. to make it a neg, what u would want to do is add a compliment to the insult, and don't make the insult so obvious. So instead of saying, "you're wearing cheap shoes", trying saying something like, Hey, those are nice shoes, did you buy them new?" And keep a straight face the whole time.


There are books out there that say that. Most of them are "How To Seduce Women In 30 min. or Less" Type books and never work, because women are experienced B.S. detectors.

They have heard it all and get turned off quickly when they hear some crapola spewed by some self proclaimed playa!



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 04:26 PM
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Originally posted by Ellipsis
If anyone complimented my shoes I would instantly think he was gay.





How the heck does complementing shoes=gay? When a woman compliments a shirt or something I'm wearing I don't assume she's a lesbo. I've had women tell me they like a certain shirt I'm wearing, doesn't mean they're gay.

Doesn't make sense. So if he compliments the clothes your wearing you would think he's gay. I'm not seeing the connection here. The only way I could is if he talked liked one of the dudes from queer eye for the straight guy.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 05:11 PM
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You may not agree, but I am honestly saying it would make me think he is gay.

Men dont notice a womans shoes first and compliment them. Its just not a normal male thing to do. I am assuming you think it is?

Whether they genuinely are gay or not, its what I would think...



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 05:15 PM
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Originally posted by Ellipsis
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I am assuming you think it is?



No, i don't think it's a normal male thing to do, which is exactly my point.

My point is, women love it when you point out quirky little things that they have or do that no other person would notice. At least that's been true in my experience.

[edit on 2-11-2007 by thehumbleone]



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 05:25 PM
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While generally I would agree with this, I think you should stay true to who you are and if you must compliment a woman pick the first thing ( after breasts and legs ) that you notice.

I guess if thats her shoes then so be it. She can filter that how she wants to..

I just had to say that I would see that as gay. May not be how every woman would see it though.



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 05:38 PM
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Originally posted by Ellipsis

While generally I would agree with this, I think you should stay true to who you are and if you must compliment a woman pick the first thing ( after breasts and legs ) that you notice.


Oh, I totally agree with that, being a genuine person is a must, anyone can smell a phony from a mile away.


I guess if thats her shoes then so be it. She can filter that how she wants to..

I just had to say that I would see that as gay. May not be how every woman would see it though.




Please understand that I was not trying to pick an argument with you. I just thought it was interesting how you correlated those two things together so I wanted to get your perspective on it. I can definitely see how you could think the person might be gay.



[edit on 2-11-2007 by thehumbleone]



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 05:55 PM
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Reverse psychology is the real ticket when it comes to picking up women.

My opening gambit is "hey, are you the one they said smells like a goat?"

Then in that stunned silence. Say, "did I say goat, I ment sweet flower of the south"

Everybody has a big yuk, and the small talk begins, couple tequila sunrises, and you just made a new "friend."

Caution... some women don't find this cute or clever at all, but thats cool.

[edit on 2-11-2007 by whaaa]



posted on Nov, 2 2007 @ 10:26 PM
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I believe he said the shoes comment just as an example lol. I love you guys, you are funny after reading this. The only thing I can think of is, if she's wearing a dress, just say that's a lovely dress, is it new? That sounds good to me, and then go from there.






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