First and foremost...You "speak" to people not talk.
Language is a beautiful thing, and if you know what you are doing can manipulate anyone.
First, I would suggest the following...www.uky.edu...
Rhetorical speaking has been around for hundreds (if not a thousand) years.
Let me give you an example...
You: What is your number? or Can I call you sometime?
You: Do you have a number where I can reach you at so we can talk sometime?
This difference between the two is very small but in a BIG way.
The first question allows for a choice to be made. An outlit for her to ethier reject your invitation or accept it.
The second response leaves little room for rejection.
You have 1) Asked her if she has a number, not if you can have it, which of course she has a number. so the answer is already yes. 2) Already made her
mind up by saying you two are already going to speak in the future.
Its a way to be non pushy, or arrogant...yet you have narrowed your chances down for her to only accept your invitation because you gave her no choice
in the matter (without making it seem that way)
Never ever deal in choices, make all statements or questions a "not if but when" statement.
Wrong way..."will you go out with me" or "Would you like to go get coffee"
Right way..."When are you and I going to get together" "When do I get to take you out for coffee"
Of course, this advice is not fool proof, and can always be rejected. But the way you present your statements can have a huge impact on how the person
reacts to your approaches.