posted on Sep, 14 2007 @ 05:55 PM
I was cheated on, yeah. Twice by the same guy. I stayed in it because I was in love with the idea of being in love, and I didn't have the strength to
cut him loose. Taught me quite a lesson that I shall not repeat.
Honesty. Trust. Respect. These are necessary for any relationship (friend or other) to work.
1) She cheated. Lack of respect for you, and for the relationship.
2) She kept it hidden. Lack of honesty on her part.
3) She waited until months after the fact to mention it -- what a #ing smack in the face.
My thoughts have already been stated on the thread -- move on. Don't let yourself be snared by thoughts of rekindling the romance -- she does not
possess the moral character to maintain a healthy, loving relationship... not if she lies (not telling you about it when it happened is a lie), not if
she disrespects you (she cheated, then she waited, then she 'casually' mentions it -- not a person worthy of respect in my book).
Fweshcawfee's words are also true, to a point. Be yourself no matter what -- but KNOW yourself. Know your boundaries, know your limits, know when you
can or cannot push past those comfort zones. Know what principles you hold, what principles you enact. Know what you will and will not allow from
When you decide to walk away from hell, please don't look back. You'll want to look back more than a flower in the desert wants water... your heart
will burn for it, your brain will prick and torture you to do so. Just don't do it.
I looked back and thought "maybe he's learned from his mistake, maybe he'll be a better person, maybe... maybe..." I forgave, and I got burned
again and again.
Also, although no one likes being advised to do so, get yourself checked for stds. No need to unknowingly carry the past into a future relationship...