I've already lost a child this year i don't think i can handle loosing another even if shes not genetically mine.
Very sorry to hear of your loss. However pick yourself up and go on ...dont get stuck in a rut. I am not saying to forget your loss...no way. Learn
from it and grow stronger. Life is very difficult, trying, and demanding. It will test us till we are in the grave. Nothing gaurantees us the choicest
morsels in the pot.
Ivzm, has it ever occured to you that this woman told you this to deliberately get you to break up with her. I have known many women who are this
maneuvering. A couple of women have actually voiced to me how they were going to do this with thier men in order to get to the position or posture in
life where they wanted to go. The key ingredient here with all of them was that they wanted it to appear like it was their boyfriends idea to break up
with them so that they would bear no responsibility. No risk...and look like it was his doing ...and they were the victim. Got it yet???
This is just another variation on the "victim dictum" so popular with many women.
Watch seentomuch's posts
Lol! Don't pull me into this, Jbondo! I'll never divulge the secret strategies and beliefs women hold sacred! We'll forever be a mystery!
There is nothing mysterious or sacred about this. The sacredness is not sacred ..it is merely strategy. 'This is what often keeps many men off guard
and in a position of trying out for approval.
It is up to you to catch on and think ...not emote.
Emotions among many women are what they consider sacred...emotions are often a tool to get men to perform for them. A type of pass to play thorough
unaccountable...without risk. With many women emotions count for what is correct in life....especially if one can by emotions get someone elses to
take risks to satisfy ones needs, desires, and wants... dont be deceived by this. Once you break through this ignorance the so called sacredness and
mystery of these emotions..including yours..... will disappear..vaporize...into thin air.
No woman wants a man who is so emotional and emoting that they are competition for them in the emotional arena.
Women by and large do not want a sensitive man....they want a man who is sensitive to them..even when saying no. Got it yet???
Most of this "sensitive man " stuff is crap..rubbish. It just looks and sounds good ..when people mouth it.
Yes...some of he posters here are correct. Women by and large dont want a man who is a moaner and groaner. They want a man who is confident.
Confidence goes along ways with most women. They can spot confidence in a man like radar searching in the dark.
When a woman can constantly get a man to perform for her in whatever she needs or dictates with subtilty ...this is not confidence ...it is control.
Like a puppet on a string. It just appears to dumb ignorant men like it is their idea and they are flexing thier tostesterone for the ladys.
As to antars advice just before this post...do so if you want..I wouldnt. Just move on. This is not to say that you dont be civil when you see them in
public...not at all. Be civil. Especially with her daughter. Just contiinue on. Date other women..this is part of confidence and not letting this
drag you down. I can gaurantee you that if this woman of which you speak is in fact a woman ..it wont take long for her to find out you are seeing
other women. You just leave her right where she is at.
Be careful what you think is the actual status quo or what is really happening out here...especially in relationships..your emotions and desires can
often fool you ..as is evident by many of the posts on the relationship board.
Learn the diciplines needed to week out the wildlife in relationships to get what you need or where you want to go....not necessarily what you desire.
They are often not the same thing. Think ..dont just emote. It is obvious by many of the posts here that our emotions can deceive us.