posted on Sep, 17 2007 @ 10:20 PM
As an older woman, all I can say is, Oh you poor thing.
Seriously though, I'm 50 and I'm dating a guy that's 31 (same age as my daughter). He's fun but not terribly interesting and we haven't had one
deep or serious conversation yet. I don't think he knows how so I just enjoy the silliness and fast car. In small doses. I don't call him to chat
on the phone.
I think some younger guys like dating older women because they think we're too old to get knocked up. (We're not). They have issues with their
mothers. (I'm not interested in resolving for them). We're usually at a point in our lives where we make more money than they do. (Takes stress
off them financially while dating). A lot of older women buy stuff for younger guys (not sure why-insecurity?).
Sometimes, (rarely) age in a relationship is "just a number" but, more often than not, it is a determining factor in the direction a relationship
CAN move. There's no continuity of generational memories. No shared experiences of cultural awakenings. (Remember what you were doing when Kennedy
was assasinated? How did you handle the whole free-love era? See what I mean?) If the woman in question has any maturity at all, she won't get
serious with a 19 year old. Kind of like dessert-a nice treat once in a while but you can't get any substance. No offense intended at all. You may
be a rare young man of substance but most 19 year olds are not.
Also, men fall in love because they enjoy the sex. Women enjoy the sex because they're in love. Do you share common interests? Common goals? Do
you want to have kids? She won't want to wait much longer if you do. Do you invite her to hang out with your friends? Have you seen her without
her make-up? Does she need her car fixed or her refrigerator moved? Do you want to go to college? Is she recently divorced or otherwise on the
rebound and needing an ego boost that having a young stud attracted to her would bring? These are not romantic questions but they need to be asked.
Love may be blind but it doesn't have to be stupid. If it's just lust (as I suspect), let her know up front. If she's mature and honest with
herself, she'll probably be grateful that you don't expect her to "settle down". She may just be in it for the good times, too.