posted on Aug, 27 2007 @ 10:39 PM
Jessica, thank you, you know I appreciate your thoughts. The feds are loving to deport people, whether legal immigrant or illegal for "crimes of
moral turpitude," but he has to have been sentenced to jail before they'll do it. And even though non-payment of child support is a federal crime
now, and he's over $23,000 in arrears, again, it has to be prosecuted locally. He pays the bare minimum so they don't find him in contempt. Out of
the $1670 he was supposed to pay this month, I got $100. Just enough for a box of diapers and gas in my car for the rest of the month. Better than
nothing I guess.
Whitewave, I don't think I am brave enough or strong enough to make such an offer to my ex. I am pretty sure he'd take it, because he knows giving
the kids up will torture me worse than anything. After a hearing in April when the judge chewed us both out for the conflict and told us how our
daughter's future would be poorly shaped by it, I nearly gave up. My attorney and friends of mine talked me out of it. They said (rightly so) that to
give them up to him would be abandoning them to a horrible upbringing, and they'd suffer all their lives because of it.
So I put my head down and keep soldiering on. Hopefully the evaluation will put a stop to most of the custody battle in court and we can get on with
the actual divorce. That is something I actually am looking forward to going to court for.