I was reading these posts and planning on answering when i got to the end when i see that Veritas Lux Mea said it all already....
I couldn't have said it as good as she did though.....
About the scared of the dark part -
i always was too, until a few years ago , I was blessed to have my child saved by an angel
-and one of the things he taught me before he had to leave was
"whenever you find yourself afraid in the dark,
and evil is sneaking in all around you
just remind yourself that all you have to do is (at this point , he sparked up a match looked around,smiled)
spark up a light , and you will see nothing wrong
nothing to fear, nothing changed at all
it was just them trying to pull the wool over your eyes,
and make you believe that you were lost
He never loses anyone...........and
He is never lost, He is inside us all".
The spark he was referring to in real life (that he used the match to represent)
was the light of God inside our hearts , which is our strongest defense
against all dark
for there is nothing stronger .
so while i still do sometimes get freaked out and scared when i can't
see whats coming , or whatever,
most of the time all i need to do is say out loud
something to remind myself (and, them, i guess)
Who I have guarding me,
sometimes even just a song helps
try it sometime, hopefully it can work for you as well