posted on Aug, 20 2007 @ 01:22 PM
I think there could be several reasons for this:
I think a lot of this goes back to childhood psychology.
First, let me start off by saying that people may feel they are legititamely depressed, whether they are or not. They don't have an emotional
guideline, or emotional intelligence,so they don't know which way is up when it comes to wellbeing.
They can't tell a blue day from depression.
As a long time sufferer of depression and a spuuse who is bipolar, I can tell the difference, but many can't. Depression is long term and
debilatating. You can even gather the courage to make a phone call or function. Adn you can't just snap out of it.
Emotional disturbances are dictated by the time a child is age five. How you are going to react, think, feel, is permenantly imprinted for life. An
adult can change it, but it is a herculian task not for the weak minded. Since many behaviors imprint the neurons by the time a child is five, it is
hard to break. That is why adults have a harder time learning a language, because schools usually wait till high school to teach it, when it should
begin in pre-school.
Even the most well intentioned parent can make their child socially defunct. Either by being an overly doting parent or by not being emotionally
involved at all. Not only can this lead to depression, but narcissistic personality disorders and others. It can be from parents who are emotionally
withdrawn, as in the case of over militant fathers, or emotionally withdrawn parents in post partom depression, or if the parent is sick.And it only
takes one parent to be emotionally defunct themselves.Especially in America, parents are usualy too busy working, are too overbearing, or have the old
school method of letting children cry, act as if they are born criminals to be whipped into shape, and every bit of the child's life is to brought to
independance, not comfort, stability, and love. Nothing makes me cringe more then to hear a parent sleep train a child at 2 months old. I have heard
of a parents recently that believe in forcing children to sleep at certain times, like 1-4. Even if the child needs comfort, they let them scream for
hours.Meanwhile, a child under the age of one doesn't even know they are a separate being from their parent. And parents will leave them alone for
hours on end, not pick them up, all for the sake that the child doesn't get too "attached".
In the case of an over-adoring parent, all they do is try to make their child"happy" bribing them with food, they feel a child shouldn't be
"sad". In either case, the parents are dismissive of their kids feelings. A child is sad, and basically told that it is an emotion they shouldn't
have, but they do have it. They feel dismissed, even if the well intentioned parent is just trying to make them happy. So they are left feeling very
confused, and never learn what the sadness is and how to handle it properly.The children don't learn how to identify their feelings, how to solve
them, and how to handle them. Just leaving them in an in-capable chaotic mess.There is a wonderful book, that even adults can read for insight into
their own problems, called"How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child". Every parent should be required to read it.
Depression should be taken seriously. Constant untreated depression can lead to bi-polar disorder, which is a very serious mental illness. Those who
suffer from bp have an 80% divorce rate, and one in five commit suicide. Because their depression becomes so overwhelming that they can no longer
So I think that is why docs are willing to treat it so easily. If it is indeed depression, it can lead to much more serious problems. And bP can't be
cured, just maintained.
People who don't understand true depression, can't understand what it is like.While yes, I think there are a lot of truley depressed people, some
people just don't know what is wrong, that it may be low self-esteem, just a normal low in life, etc. Especially those who are alway's conditioned
to be "happy". Or if they were sad as a child, it was dismissed.
I even witnessed it in my own home. My FIL, who is a very stoic emotionless rock with a military parents, started calling my son a cry-baby at 9
months old!! A 9 month old! A couple more times of this and I nipped it in the bud. These kind of comments are very damaging. I have been called a
crybaby as an adult by someone who "loved" me, and it hurt. I can only imagine what what it does to a child. Then boys are not supposed to show any
emotion at all. They only acceptable emotion is anger.
This brings me to the third reason. I think that men today are encouraged a little more(not 100%) just a little, to actually be allowed to seek help,
let their gaurd down a little, to be able to show a little more emotion, the metrosexual if you will,so they are more likely to seek treatment then
I was reading an article recently about pain. How so many professional athletes and those with military careers end up suffering from chronic pain
from injuries and overuse of their bodies.
Before, they had to suck it up and be men. But in recent years, they have decided that seeking treatment is better then suffering, and they are
seeking it. So there has been a spike in the number of men seeking treatment for pain. And good thing too. What they are finding is that if pain is
treated, and treated hard right away, instead of doctors nicke and dimeing the drugs, there is less chance that it will become chronic. Again, chronic
pain is when the neurons are set into a permenant path in the brain, so if the pain is left untreated, it keeps using the same pathways until they
become perm. and leaving the person with chronic pain.
Last but not least, the brain runs on chemicals. There are so many chemicals dumped into our environment and food, that we have around our
home.(fabric softener should be illegal) that it is bound to interact with the chemical highway in our brains. It has to affect us.