At what point do the parent and coaches go overboard? When is it too much? When they jeer at the kids? When they get physical with the kids? I am
sure that is agreed on! How about when children are excluded from playing at 7 years old, because they will not help the team win? Is that too much
or it is just the game of football? At what age is exclusion ok. Life isn’t fair, that is a given. No one promised it would be. The same
question presses though, at what age does winning take precedence over sportsmanship? At what age is a child written off as not worthy to play with a
These are pressing questions for me as a mother. We played flag football last fall and I can’t say enough good things about the way it was ran.
my son’s coach was great and my first football mom experience was a super one. All the kids played all the positions. And you know what? We still
won! The parents were happy, the kids were happy, it was great. My son played basketball with Christian Basketball camp this summer and it was
wonderful. Again, positive, supportive and he learned a lot. He won camper of the day one day and won a camper of the week award also. Anyone who
has ever been to this camp knows what an honor both of these awards are.
I had originally planned for my son to play another year of flag football, as he is a small kid. Tough as nails, but scrawny. He begged me to let
him play tackle. It was too late for our regular league, and a friend had mentioned the signups were still open at First Baptist Concord Church
league. My first thoughts were that was great, a Christian based program would be ideal. I signed him up and picked up his pads and gear.
He was so excited for practice, had all his pads on and was ready to get on the field, in spite of the 95 degree humid heat. He had been practicing
about 40 minutes when I was called onto the field. I was standing on field when the questions started “We need to know what is wrong with your
child”. I answered that he had very mild CP. It does cause him to limp, but, does not cause him to abstain from any activity. The two coaches
then said something about insurance not covering him, but… He could practice with them, he just could not play any games. They were there to win and
the only time he would ever get to play in a game is if they were winning by such a margin they couldn’t lose or losing so badly they couldn’t
win. I couldn’t answer these things, as I was too upset and since this was done in front of all the parents on the field, I felt saying nothing
was better than humiliating myself more by getting upset
Again, I would like to know at what age should a child be excluded because he isn’t a superstar on the field? This was not a safety issue. This is
not a health issue. It is a talent issue. A great quote by a good friend who was a pro football player and has kids on that league said “They have
no idea what they have lost by asking him not to play. That kid would have brought more sportsmanship and team spirit to the team than they can
One would want to believe, a church league would be the league that WOULD be inclusive. That they would follow a Christian type of coaching, putting
the kids first. Putting sportsmanship first. Not win no matter which kid you crush. That is the thing, at what age is it ok to exclude the players
that are not going to cut it on the varsity team?
The reality remains I have now missed most signup dates and have a kid who LOVES football, that doesn’t have a team to play on. I hope I get my
money back at least. I do know if I can't find another league for him to play on, I am going to have a VERY hurt kid.
Society has become so driven to win, that, all else is sacrificed from a very young age. I don't know. I am just a mom. Just a mom that's kid that
chose to have surgery over Christmas so he would be ready for football this summer. Just a mom with a kid that lives and breathes this stuff and
understands it a heck of a lot better than me!
This spring, a few months after surgery and they didn't get his flag and it was a touchdown!