Originally posted by The Phantom
i hooked up my ex with a place to live(granted, it was just a couch at my friends house but still... i had to convince 2 guys to let her live with
them) cause she got kicked out of her house by her nut case mom, a car(P.O.S)90 somethin NOVA but i was able to get it for free).. cause she lost that
in the move (it was her moms)
i was honest and i cared for her
honestly, to this day, i still dont know what i did wrong.. i dont think ill ever know
LOL LOL LOL Phantom,
Are you the rescue me type looking for a woman as a project?? How many women do you know who are looking for a man as a project..to rescue him from
his stupidity?? How many are looking for a man like this as a career???
Got the point yet? You go out here and take on a womans baggage and then wonder how she can kick you to the curb?? Did you go to pubic schools and get
a television education??
You do not use your resources to bail others out ...who should be integrating and practicing the skills to handle problems for themselves...begining
with a roof over their heads. You do not make this conduct a carreer move so that you can come in second or third place or further down the line with
your first place fruits. Understand??
You are not in the lost puppy buisness..go it?? You are not a knight in shining armor. It should be obvious to you that many of these women dont have
that long a attention span. Not all but many.
I have had several women tell me that they are not looking for men as a project..they want their men ready made. YOu can translate this statement by
them that they are "commitment phobes." Commitment is a one way thing within their social/religious belief system. It is not equality and they
will get no where near this type of equality.
Its ok if you do it the other way around and commit to them and thier projects/needs. Understand the difference??
YOu ignorantly substitute your time, subatance, and value systems for their needs and then you come in last...got it yet??
The stupidity is that in a time of "equality" you dont see it socially acceptable for women to do this. But you dont think about it in these
terms..you just wonder in ignorance what you did wrong.
You are volenteering in your stupidity to make yourself expendable and disposable. Not smart!!
Your time and knowlege is valuable..dont make a career in selling yourself short for second or third hand value in return.
Its up to you to wise up and realize the value of your skills, time, and moneys. Just dont make a career out of rescuing lost puppys with your time
moneys and friends....even exes.
I know a woman who is having a hard time..living out of her car.... some two years now. She calls or tms on my cell occasionally. I find myself being
cautious so as not to get on the rescue treadmill. I admire her backbone in surviving in this manner but I am not looking for a project. This is a
very easy thing for a typical male, rescue me knight in shining armour, mentality in which to get caught up. YOu have to learn to say no. It is very
difficult. Just say no.