posted on Jul, 20 2007 @ 10:05 AM
I just wanted to share this with you all.
I have a 15 yr old daughter. She really is a good kid. Grades are okay, never been in trouble at school, doesn't give her mom or anyone problems.
Seems to be a happy, boy crazy 15 year old girl.
She lives 5 hours away from me with her mom, so I only get to see her a few times a year.
A couple of weeks ago, she came up for the summer visit we always have. She used to stay for 2 weeks, but this year I could only get one week out of
her and expect that to go down as she gets older.
Anyway, while here she asked if she could go check her email. I asked her what email address she was checking, I knew that she had a yahoo email, but
she said on her myspace. I didn't know she had a myspace.
I immediately asked her how long she's had it, as it turns out only about a month or so. She said that her mom is aware of it and ok'd it. She also
said that about every couple of days or so, her mom logs in and checks it out.
I told my current wife about the myspace and she seemed a little more upset about it that I was. She thoguht that it might be a good idea if we
checked it out too. So I asked my daughter to log in and let me see it.
She didn't hesitate and pulled it right up. I was actually impressed with her site, the layout and colors. Kind of cool.
So I start looking around, she has a few friends on there and they are all from her hometown and she goes to school with them. We started reading
some of the comments that were left and they all were girlish related and innocent.
However my wife stumbled up on something under the blog section. It was one post, that my daughter claims that she had cut and paste, because her
friends did it.
It was an article or story if you will about having friends with benefits.
I was a little shocked so I asked her if she knew what it meant. At first she said no, and then said isn't it like a boyfriend that you kiss?
I asked her if her mom had talked to her about sex, and it turned out that she has ( boy I really didn't want to have that one, but would have ). My
wife and I explained a little about friends with benefits and feel comfortable that we got the message across and that she really didn't know what it
was all about.
I then went on to talk to her about the dangers of being online and posting personal info. I think she got it. I called her mom the next day and we
discussed it again and she had a talk with my daughter when she got home.
So, after all that, I still have a pretty good kid, this is just one thing that came up and I'm glad that I was doing my job as a parent and keeping
an eye on her.
Please watch out for your children, they really are special and need our guidance and help in growing up.