posted on Jun, 29 2007 @ 08:08 PM
It's a very difficult one...I am totally sickened by child porn and the like and would string the f**s up... however ...I am not sure telling the
parents is the right thing to do!... as this seems to be just pictures and video with no sexual actions (im assuming that from your description... if
there is its a very very different story) with an adult... its just pictures and video of a human being of the boys age.
When young children sometimes need to have an emergency pee and parents take them behind a bush or wall to do so... I think many people have seen that
happen in their lives, are they then implicit in pornographic displays of their children? Is this boy commiting a crime? hes a minor doing a natural
I do support a previous poster who warned about the danger of imprinting an image on the boys make up and sexual, and therefore to a large extent
personality of him when he is an adult.... however I don't think you looked at it closely enough.... he is looking at girls his own age totally
naturally, its normal, as he grows older and gets older he will be attracted to and have encounters with girls his own age so his desires will change
as he does. Some think it was fine if he was looking at normal porn, well thats not true, he will then find it hard to form bonds with girls of his
own age. He will have an expectation of model like airbrushed women sexually submissive and for want of a better phrase "perfect".
I also worry as at that age he is just beginning probably to explore and form his sexuality, hormones are raging, his masculine and sexual identity
is being formed, it is very fragile.
The embarrassment and "shame" that he will feel now at being confronted over this may stay with him for life, it obviously depends on the parents
but I know from observation that sex and the ability to enjoy himself and explore his natural right will be tinged with guilt, shame, and
secretiveness. Also anger will be there.
So he may then associate the pictures of young girls with these feelings, they will be anchored to these emotions, a strong emotional link. This is
therefore more likely to make him not explore other porn he will be locked for life in a cycle of these emotions and anchored images.
He may also now instead of looking at those pictures as he did before naturally, humanely normally, now whilst masturbating to them include these new
anchored cyclic emotions and feelings into the sex act. He will have felt some of his power was taking away (his closest secret, ego knocked by guilt
shame, parents disapproving etc) and now try and take the power back from the thing that he will subconsciously blame..... the object of desire and
He may therefore be much more likely to go on to become a sexual predator, using sex as power maybe even over children.
Each individual is differant though so I am only talking in broad scope terms and realise that, there are so many more factors that could add to the
nightmare scenario I paint above. Socio economic, genetic, environmental and mainly the parents, probably to a large degree his first true girlfriend
and definately his peer group.... but I had to say how I see it and go against the consensus.
That is of course, as I said, just a couple of pics natural, no posing or obvious porn, I think in that case maybe we should think carefully of this
issue at such a delicate age, and make sure for the perceived but unknown breach of the rights of one child (photographed) we don't affect another
child and potentially his whole life, and worst case scenario more children. Sometimes Knee jerk reactions can keep a cycle going not do what the
action is intended to do, stop the cycle.
Personally I would have deleted the files as you did, made a story up about a special service, or check up you had to do on the PC in say 6 months
time (for free) and seen then if more were their and decided on those what to do, ie real porn or girlfriends and mobile phone?
This might sound not right to many here who feel take them to the authorities to get the pedophiles.... well I agree if you know one kick seven types
of sh**t out of him/her before getting the police, but lets be fair guys there are literally hundreds of thousands of child porn files of some type on
the net, and out there, its sick but real.
I just think we should think on this terrible issue long and hard as a world and stop attacking the symptoms and look at the cause, how we treat
children in everyday life who then grow up to become the sicko's. Is it worse that boy is looking at naked girls his own age, would you rather him go
on to faces of death and see young men being decapitated? or sit and play a computer game of extreme violence for six hours then watch Rambo?...I
think its more normal and healthier at his age to be allowed to explore his sexuality, than do that.
Just some thoughts. And at the end of the day I can see violence to children everywhere in society, sexually, emotionally, physically, spiritually,
environmentally all these behaviors usually passed down from parents who learnt of their parents etc etc behaviours are in cycles... if only society
for one generation concentrated on the 1-18 years olds for 18 years at the exclusion of all else, tackling these things head the world truly would be
a differant place for their children, our grandchildren?
As a side note this has happened once, there is a North American Indian tribe, I forget from memory which, but before any decision was ever made by
the council or chiefs would look at it from the effects on their grandchildren both now and when they became adults. Only the decisions that helped
that part of the society the most, both now as children and when they became adults were taken and made.
anxietydisorder, whatever you doI support you in it and I hope I have not put any worries in your head, from the posts ive read of yours you seem to
be good person and have a good heart so follow that.
ElfEdit Spelling & Gramah
[edit on 29-6-2007 by MischeviousElf]