Originally posted by jbondo
One thing I can advise you not to do and that's obsess over weight as my mother did my entire life. I believe that was a major contributor to my
problems. I don't think she realized it but even though she didn't insult me directly as a child her implied disappointment in me for being
overweight and constantly trying to put me on diets had quite an impact on me.
If just once my mother would have said: Hey instead of that candy bar why don't we cut up some apples and make a delicious yogurt dip for them?
If I had a dollar for every time my mother said "you don't need that!"
You have made a better point then you think. What parents say has a huge effect on a person's impression of food.
I sum it up as "If you make an issue of eating, you make eating an issue.
Parents also need to keep in mind that kids do plump up a little before a growth spurt. Especially in teen years. The body needs the extra calories.
My teen cousin did this. Her very thin mother harped on her about it. Now at 18 all she drinks is milk, and her mother harps on her about not eating,
and she is rail thin. Poor thing must be confused. The next child is 15, plumped up a little, and the cycle is starting over.
Kids instinctively know what they need and don't need, until commericalism kicks in.
Well meaning parents interfere.
When I say it is multi-faceted, it is such a complex issue that I can't fit it all in a few posts. And I don't want to bore you. I am a veteran of
weight loss. Like everything in my life, I have studied it till I can be an expert. Where people tell me I should start my own commercial program.
Yes, it is about a proper diet and exercise, but eating is 90% mental and 10% physical.
But some other issues are to be considered:
One psychological aspect of it is that there is peer pressure. When I was losing weight, it is amazing the amount of sabotage that goes on. Here, eat
a piece of cake, it is my birthday. Oh come on, it is a holiday. Just one cookie, I made them for you. If I refused, I get hurt looks. I had one girl
threaten me that after refusing 3 times that it was bad luck not to eat her birthday cake. I said the calories were bad for me also.
Then there is other psychological associations. People eat when they are depressed, bored, scared, etc. They have done studies recently to prove this.
That their full factors have been over-ridden.
Then there is what I call the clean plate syndrome. Where as children we are told there are starving children in Africa, eat everything on your plate.
Don't waste food. So you had to eat everything. Or children are not allowed to leave the table till they finish. This teaches children to over-ride
their senses of what they need and when, and when to feel full, leading to overeating issues the rest of their lives. If you finish your meal, you can
have dessert. So now we stuff ourselves in order to get tastey rewards.
Then their is the association. People bribe children with food. You behave and I will take you to McDs. Or a person has a happy memory of going to get
ice cream with mom and dad every weekend. So now, to bring those happy memories back, they go get ice cream. It is now associated with a happy
feeling, so when feeling depressed, they eat.
McDs plays on psychology too, pointed out in SuperSizeMe.They make it a bright shiney happy place, with clowns,playgrounds,and parties.
As far as not having time to cook good food. The cooking is the easy part. It is the cleanup that is hard. Yea, you have rachel ray's 30 minute
meals, but she has interns to clean the kitchens. I could cook a healthy stir fry, but then I have to clean the counters, the pans,the wok, the
dishes,put them in the dishwasher, and then unload it again. Many mothers have stopped cooking because they can't work,cook, and then cleanup,and
take care of the kids.Yes,the family should help.But in many instances, they don't or won't.