Aces, as a Freemason, I can tell you my life is anything but hollow. I cant speak for all "Secret Societies" but as has been said here many times,
Freemasonry is not a secret society. On the contrary to your statement, my life has been enriched by my association with Freemasonry and I have
learned a great deal about myself and my relation to the Grand shceme of things. As far as secrets go, the only secrets Freemasons hold are a few
words and signs as modes of recognizing each other.
Hope that sheds some light on your question. BTW my wife and family support me completely in my fraternal associations.
Dredz