posted on Apr, 19 2007 @ 12:56 PM
None of the sources mentions a 'foster Dad'. Whether or not the foster-mother had a husband isn't mentioned.
Undoubtedly, more information will surface re: this case. Strange though, if an unmarried woman was granted sole care and responsibility for three
foster children basically from very early childhood to adulthood.
It does make you wonder why the three foster children didn't confide in anyone throughout such a long time (19 years).
Certainly, if she was the only mother-figure they'd known, they would have felt great loyalty towards her. And if she had been apprehended by
authorities, it would have meant they would have been placed in an institution or another foster home ... which may also have required the children to
be separated, which would have distressed them.
As well, she was the only mother they'd known. In addition to the natural love and acceptance that children bestow on their parents, their foster
mother may have reminded them continually that she was 'doing them a favour'. She may have thrown in their faces the fact that their biological
parents 'didn't love or want' them. And the children would most probably have believed this, based on their circumstances.
Their foster mother may have told the children that she was 'allowed' to mistreat them and that the 'authorities' condoned her behaviour. She
seems to have kept the children isolated, so they may have had little opportunity to compare her with other children's parents.
Undoubtedly, the foster mother must have had her 'good' moments. In one of the reports, neighbours claimed the children always appeared
clean, well cared-for and well-dressed. From this, we can suspect that the foster-mother was aware of the importance of portraying herself as a
capable and responsible -- even loving -- 'mother'. So she cannot claim 'insanity'. Nor can she claim that her fits of violence and cruelty were
rare, considering all the children told the same story and said their suffering was inflicted throughout each of their lives.
This is a tragic story. It highlights yet again the dangers faced by children at the hands of adults.
The Childrens Services or whichever body is ultimately responsible for the welfare of children, will undoubtedly claim that they lack resources; that
they are over-extended and cannot possibly guard against all eventualities; will only investigate if and when it is warranted.
However, would it be too much to expect that the Children's Services departments at least undertook to assess people seeking to foster children ---
subjected them to psychiatric assessment -- and in the case of those applying to be teachers as well?
Why is it possible for totally unsuitable individuals to gain complete power and control of children?
Why do we allow sadists -- such as this foster mother -- to get her hands on helpless little children?
If that woman had been administered standard psychiatric tests, in all probability her sadistic tendencies would have become known. Instead, the
State handed over to her three little tots, then allowed her to close the door and indulge her sick, sadistic thrills 24/7.
Jail won't fix a thing. She's inflicted the pain. She had 19 years in which to perfect the damage wrought on those three people. It's with them
for life. It forms their earliest memories and these will haunt them for many decades, if not for life. Torturing children was their 'role model'
as far as parenting is concerned. That's all they know of parenting. How will they treat their own children, based on their own experience? Even
with counselling (which they probably won't receive and what can it achieve against 19 years of their own experience, anyway) those three people will
have to use idealised tv families as 'role models' if they hope to avoid repeating on their own children the lessons of their childhood.
Jail won't hurt that foster mother. She probably regards herself as a victim of the situation: she probably believes she did the world a favour by
raising three children; she probably believes she was a 'good' mother and an appropriate 'disciplinarian'. Maybe she tells herself she was
'knocking the inherited 'badness' out of the children. Whatever the case, she's had her fun (and I suspect a lot of it was due to her repressed
sexuality) -- sated her sadistic desires to the full, throughout 19 years.
But the irony is ---- if those three people were handed sticks and piles of rat-excreta and told they were free to inflict on their foster mother the
same torture she applied to them ..... they would probably refuse any opportunity for revenge and would burst into tears or hug that vicious old
And that is those children's triumph ! And it's the triumph of the human spirit ! Because after all they've been through, that old woman
failed to turn those poor kids into monster in her own image.
That's the greatest punishment for her, when you think about it. She's on her own. Her victims walked away. They proved themselves better,
stronger than her. They're wounded and bloodied, but triumphant. I sure hope the rest of their lives is kind to them.