Originally posted by robertfenix
I am not sold that it is actually a "problem" social interaction can be taught, he can learn how to express and experience emotions and to develop
sympathy.
You can not teach intelligence.
Do not worry, but as his parent you MUST provide him with an enviroment where he is forced to interact with other kids, it might take a while to find
the right sport or activity but once you do and he begins to feel that the other people are of equal capacity to him he will begin to build the social
interaction skills he is missing.
People with High IQ as children can regard those people that they feel are not as smart as them with a sort of distain and almost treat them like they
do not exist.
This is why IMO Autistic children with High IQ's are viewed as withdrawn. It is not that they do not know how to interact, its that they feel it is
not required or not vital or even important to their current activity to then turn their attention to interact with someone else.
Its a type of self only personality shell that you as a parent have to break open by giving the child a compelling reason to interact with another
person. Yet it must be done in an enviroment where the child feels it was his personal choice to interact with another person.
Whatever you do, do not shelter the child and do not allow them to alienate themselves from playmates. There should be an agreement that he can have X
number of hours as alone play time, but that he must spend X number of hours in a group activity. As long as it is fun for him over time he will begin
to want more "group" time vs alone time.
I have autism. I'm 34 now, but when I was a kid I had a really rough time.
People were very uneducated about it back then. They tried to put me on ritulin, change me from left handed to right handed, sent me to various
psychologists etc. I went from special classes for kids with "problems" to special advanced subject classes in school. But the thing was I never had
interest in any of it. I was disruptive to the other kids, and extremely critical of others to the point where it got me in a lot of trouble.
The reason I quoted this post was because it is pretty accurate. I never cared to socialize or compete with anyone since I saw no point in it. And
believe me, that takes a lot to change. It doesn't mean there is no possibility of a social life (I am married with a little boy and have friends),
but rather means that anyone I deem to possess a minimum level of intelligence in my mind does not exist to me. I ignore them. I often find myself
frustrated with a lot of other people, especially people who lack abstract or diverse thought. I have no care to socialize with them. I am lucky that
my wife is of substantial intelligence and we have very deep conversations. I think that is what attracted me to her, among other things.
And I have become a consistent over-achiever in everything I do with all the time I spend doing things, but again, I agree I take it all for granted.
(I have to be reminded frequently) Where I am currently at is never good enough, so I often find myself spending a majority of my time perfecting
things I do. But this is not necessarily a bad thing. I make a very good living. In fact, I won't get into specifics but I am also a pretty popular
pro boxer like my father and grandfather before me. I have an advanced knowledge of electronics, mechanics, and I am an accomplished self-taught
guitar player. The emphasis here is that I am a success, I have happines, love and all the other things other people have. Autism doesn't separate
you from all of that. I find that the only time I am really separated from everyone else is when I am in pursuit of a goal. I get pretty "fierce"
when anyone gets in my way so to speak. I am also NOT a team player. I have to call the shots. I refuse to put my name on anything
that I didn't have complete control of myself. Hope that helps....