posted on Apr, 3 2007 @ 03:34 PM
Friend, there's probably nothing that you could have done to keep it from happening. If someone is wanting to cheat, they're going to find a way to
do it, no matter what. If you try to always "be there" then you run the risk of smothering them and they'll get tired of that too...
I don't know what encouraging words I can offer other than what I live by...
When I first met my wife, I was a little worried about cheating. We'd both come out of long relationships and wanted to be together, but at the same
time wanted a little freedom.
Up until meeting her I had always been a very jealous person, since I was a teenager, most of my girlfriends cheated on me and I think that my first
wife thought about it. Now you may ask, well why did that happen, was it my fault? I don't think so. I'm a very nice guy, I treat women very well.
Some times too well, but thats another discussion.
It was very hard for me to trust Jen when I first met her, 9 years ago. She was a very independent person. I had to learn to love and trust her at the
I did this by telling myself, I'm going to put myself out there and love her and trust her, if she does something then it's not my fault. I did the
right things, treated her right and gave her my love, if she messed up then it's on her and I must choose to get over it or move on.
Well we're still together, I trust her completely to this day as she does me. I still feel the same way, if she cheated, yes it would hurt, but it
wouldn't be my fault, I would have to move on.
You'll probably never be able to forget what happened, I know that I wouldn't. You just have to learn to accept if as a fact and maybe a lesson in
life and go forward.
I don't know if that helps, just keep your head up and try to move forward.
[edit on 3-4-2007 by elevatedone]