Apologies for the exceptionally long post, I can't seem to write short one, I do try..
Well, we are into the question that most of us ponder, what is it all about and we may well all come up with different answers, it's one of those
subjects that only has meaning to the individual. For example, I could answer your questions and say it is truth but it would be my truth and no one
elses, for every truth, there's someone that will heartily disagree, hence you will see lots of phrases like... "look within yourself". I will try
and offer you food for thought without trying to push my own beliefs but you have to remember, this is one persons persepctive and may not be right
but you are simply questioning the very thing(s) that at some point we all question.
One thing i cannot understand is the past lives part, i mean i have heard of people being hypnotised to access any past lives they have had but
i have also know people to be hypnotised and made to think they are an animal.
Personally, I don't like hypnosis because I think our physical being and the nature of humans is that we are programmable and easily influenced. If
you want to find out what past lives you have, my choice would be to start with meditation. Astral Projection (AP) aka OOBE is, in my opinion the best
way to access past lives without experiencing physical death. Calming of the mind, body and spirit is the start. Personally, I wouldn't want a third
party involved to any great degree with this subject, but that's me.
If someone chooses to be reincarnated into another body if they think they have bad karma and they want to make up for it then in their next
life how do they know that they have chosen to be in that body and make sure they end up with good enough karma before they die again?
Theres just something not right about it.
The short answer is they don't know and rightly so or that would be cheating. Perhaps some of us have this knowledge, others find this knowledge but
most of us don't have a clue. It is only the in between stages of physical life where you get the truth of your situation. You've heard that life is
an illusion and reality is what we create for ourselves? I buy into that philosophy. Doesn't mean it's right. It works for me at this juncture
though. If it worked for all of us, life would be boring and getting the truth would be easy. I believe it's difficult for a reason, it's clear to
me that we are here for an education, make of it what you will.
I mean lets take this for example.
A parent of a child decides that every time her child does something bad she will write it down on a pad,and not tell the child when he/she has done
And at the end of every month she will add up all the bad things the child has done.
She decides that her child has performed badly this month and gives her child a good beating.
Now this child doesnt know right from wrong, if he/she had any memory from a past life then the childs past life voice should be hinting at what is
right and wrong,therefore he/she could make up for all the bad karma throughout this new life he/she has chosen.
And the problem lies right there.
We can all come up with examples of a horrible existance. In this scenario, you have two people, an abuser and an abusee. They both are learning
different lessons and perhaps the mothers lesson is to come. Lessons aren't always abuse but with young ones it's a difficult subject. The child may
have been an abuser in the past life or has not chosen the life she has, it would have depended on what choices (or lack of) she/he had before she
came. Some may say this does happen for a reason but we don't like responses like that because it is logical to us that children are innocent so some
of these philosophies don't wash well particulary with anyone that has experienced it.
About 15 years ago, I became disillusioned with life, I think many of us hit that stage at some point. Everyone I got to know had issues, everyone had
had a horror story to tell, everyone had some psychological issue or another whether they would admit it or not and most of us don't like to admit
when we have a problem. In fact, the only way to defeat such issues is to recognise them in the first place. You can lead a horse to water etc etc.
I have my own horror story and I bet you do too. I have little family left, how do you forgive a murderer of a parent, child or sibling? or abuse of
the same or even both or in combination, it is psychological torture but how many of us experience this? ... more than you may think. Look around the
world. Even the religions teach forgiveness and that's really, really hard. How can you possibly forgive? Forgiveness is a choice. If you don't, it
eats you from the inside out, you can become bitter and angry, it consumes you and changes you unless you realise what is happening. Forgiveness is
the only way (I have found) to find that peace or at least recover from the negative emotional spiral. Once you go through these stages, you are freed
from those shackles and can finally move on. The child in your scenario has such a challenge and may or may not make life work for her and the mother
is an ass and may find herself dumped back into a similar scenario or worse than the one she is dishing up... she WILL pay for her actions... who
knows, this is IMHO.
Different people have different opinions of what is right and wrong.
They certainly do but the only opinion that matters is your own. I like to think of this as a window. Everyone has a moral/ethical window, some can
see wonderous beauty through a large clear window and others are looking through a tiny dirty window that blurs and confuses what they see.
Even if you do good things, there is bound to be someone else whos opinion differs even of they are both out of love for someone or something.
So what if someone elses opinion differs? Follow your heart, you know what's right and wrong. I don't believe we need it laid out for us to know
what's right and wrong. Given what you said here, the best example would be two parents who simply disagree on disciplining a child, one may see a
smack as abuse and the other may see it as necessary. Both will claim love for the child and their best interest and could argue a case on either
side, so yes, even in cases like this where it isn't perhaps wanton abuse but more of a grey area then it's difficult but that's what makes life
challenging. I have an opinion on this issue, but again, that doesn;t make it truth for another person. That's why we need patience, openness,
support networks, love and understanding. Without these things, we have a small, dusty window.
It just boggles the mind.
Yes it does. We just need to keep plugging away and stand up for what we believe is right. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. Be kind.
Be respectful. Forgive where you can. Give where you can. Smile. Think of others. Help where possible without reward. Follow your heart. Have fun...
and you will be just fine.
Also, if we question it too much without trusting our own instincts, that can also lead down a slippery path. At some point you have to set a flag in
your belief system and follow it until you have further realisations where you may adjust your behaviour accordingly, that's called learning and why
we are here.